Stop apologising already and get on with the business of making a difference
As Jessica Bennett, author of Feminist Fight Club puts it, “Sorry is a crutch — a tyrannical lady-crutch. It’s a space filler, a hedge, a way to politely ask for something without offending, to appear “soft” while making a demand”.
Apologising not only focuses on the fault but also assumes that the fault, if there was one, was yours and keeps you playing small.
Credibility is key in your success and leadership journey
While rude is bad (and “unfeminine”), gracious and kind is good
And the best bit? Gracious is seen as “the feminine” plus seen as a highly desirable leadership trait in both men and women
And graciousness is a credibility builder.
So how do we be gracious yet not over apologise?
TRY THE REFRAME
Say “Thank you” instead of “Sorry”
“Sorry I’m late.” Instead – “Thank you for your patience”
“Sorry for the needing the meeting moved” Instead – “Thank you for your consideration”
“Sorry” when you express an option that’s contrary Instead – “Thanks and what about this idea ..”
Save sorry for when it’s really needed and matters most!
What other examples where thanks might be better than sorry?
#sorrynotsorry #womenofimpact #makeabiggerdifference