Over worked, worn out and feeling like you've hit the cap of your capability?

It's cold down south and the winter blues and tiredness seems to be infectious.  It makes you feel depleted and if left untended can undermine your best attempts at remaining confident and clambering up the career ladder of your choice.

Ignore at your peril or else you may find yourself 'leaning out' where previously you thought you were in your dream role.

‘I must be overtired’, Buttercup managed. ‘The excitement and all.’

’Rest then’, her mother cautioned. ‘Terrible things can happen when you’re overtired. I was overtired the night your father proposed.’
— William Goldman, The Princess Bride
Overwhelmed

Symptoms to watch out for include:

  • You've lost your mojo - for work AND play
  • Things that used to excite you and you could really focus on now seem a little ...... blah
  • You start to resent some of the extra items you put your hand up for - coaching, special projects or training
  • You've lost sight of your long term goals ("Me? The boss? Can't be bothered anymore.")
  • You definitely resent some of your every day tasks
  • You feel like you're borrowing from the personal to pay for the professional
  • Your significant other rolls their eyes when you start complaining about work - again
  • You begin to doubt your worth or value
  • You're beginning to believe the small negative voice on your shoulder
  • You feel like a fraud - and could be caught out at any minute or
  • You feel like giving it all up to go teach yoga, live in an Ashram - or something, anything, else.
The thing about “impostors” is they have unsustainably high standards for everything they do. The thinking here is, If I don’t know everything, then I know nothing. If it’s not absolutely perfect, it’s woefully deficient. If I’m not operating at the top of my game 24/7, then I’m incompetent.
— Dr Valerie Young

So never fear - my seven top tips are here!

  • Give yourself permission NOT to be superwoman:  Let go of the need to be bullet proof. Acknowledge that you're tired, that you are barely holding it together, that you might need help. Brene Brown's vulnerability TED talk is a wonderful resources.
  • Prioritise movement - not necessarily exercise: Movement is medicine - it improves your body, mind and spirit all in one. When you're pressured, intense exercise may just amplify stress. So movement practices like yoga, walking or tai chi are ideal.
  • Curb your addictions: When I'm down my addictions go up.  I crave chocolate, red wine, social media, trashy tele and even trashier novels. These things might work short term but they don't work long term. Instead, try a reverse Matt Cullis 30 Day Challenge to detox your life - literally.
  • Take a break:  Take regular breaks at your desk during the day, take a 3 day weekend, take some leave. You might be surprised at how all those critical, urgent, imperative things all of a sudden lose their importance. And maybe you'll simply find a smarter way.
  • Sleep as if your life depended on it:  Last year I emceed the Melbourne 2015 Women & Leadership Summit. One of the speakers, a very senior executive for a global brand, advised that prioritising sleep had been critical to her in terms of career success. Most of us simply don't get enough. Her words, not mine, "sleep your way to the top" with 8 hours per night.
  • Fit your own mask before you fit those of others: Yes, put yourself first. You're no good to anyone if you are worn out and overwhelmed. Oriah Mountain Dreamer's Invitation is a wonderful resource for those who need to learn this lesson.
  • Connect back with your why: Because when we connect with our sense of purpose we are better positioned to channel our passion far more productively to greater effect.

So pick one and #JustDoItNow. Action is the key.

Then pop me a note and tell me - what's your top tip for dealing with exhaustion?  Your advice might be just the ticket to help someone else. In fact, I'll even include your suggestion in a blog.

Being bold is not about being right, being perfect, or knowing it all. Rather it is about marshaling resources, information and people. It involves seeing problems as opportunities, occasionally flying by the seat of your pants, and ultimately being willing to fall flat on your face and know you will survive.
— Dr Valerie Young

Remember - my goal is that you win the feminine ambition trifecta - earn the big dollars, develop a big voice and (most importantly) make an even bigger difference.

Vive la révolution
#ambitionrevolution #feminineambition #LookOutCSuiteHereSheComes

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