Who said leading was comfortable anyway?

If it doesn't make you feel fabulous, don't do it!"

  • Fact?
  • Or furphy?

While I love this meme (and the pic is gorgeous), I reckon it's a truthism - something that we take to be true ..... but it's not. 

Sometimes we land a big role and ..... it's not easy.  In fact it can be downright uncomfortable and we wonder if we've made the right decision.

Remember, you always have a choice -

  1. Stay and do what ever it takes to not just survive, but thrive
  2. Leave and find something better
  3. Or anywhere in between

But the notion that big, important work, truly making a difference is somehow "easy" is a myth.  

Who says that leading was supposed to be easy or comfortable anyway?


There is a saying in the yoga world "the way we do anything is the way we do everything", which refers to the way we tackle challenges on the yoga mat mirroring the way we tackle real life challenges out there in the real world.

For example

  • a handstand is a just the next step on a journey for some, an exciting proposition to learn for others, and a scary no can do situation for many,
  • and you'll probably react in the same way in a new role that's a stretch or challenge.

How about you?

Every one has their comfort zone and it varies person to person.

But where are the edges of yours and how can you learn to sit with discomfort for a little longer?

Because we all know that that's where the magic truly happens.


A growth mindset along with Just In Time Learning (JITL), are powerful approaches to tackling big, hairy, scary and audacious goals - and making them happen despite discomfort.

However, when we adopt a growth mindset there are three provisos:

  1. Be prepared to make mistakes
  2. Be prepared to be uncomfortable
  3. Be prepared to do the work.

Not exactly the stuff of feeling fabulous, that's for sure.

Another powerful tactic is to align with a sense of purpose. When we connect with a deeper sense of "why", when we can see the bigger picture, we are far more motivated, and able, to make a far bigger difference, despite tough times.

Fact or furphy? 

Fact or furphy? 

Discomfort is the price of admission for a meaningful life
— Susan David

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There is a line in the sand that you do not want to cross despite the right mindset or a great sense of purpose. Knowing where your line is, and having an exit strategy or a risk mitigation plan in place if you cross that line will help.  

Because there is nothing quite like that deep sense of reward that comes from emerging from tough times.

And with your new sense of achievement and growth, anything might be possible.

My take? Get comfortable with discomfort – it’s part and parcel of a difference worth making.

After all, a diamond isn’t created overnight or without pressure is it?

And I'm aiming for diamond status - you?

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