4. They get out of their own way – and don’t sweat the small stuff. They have been able to park the small me that will try and keep then safe. And they only worry about the things that matter most. The down side of playing a safe game is that it's frequently also a small or comfortable game. And as the saying goes - “worry is like sitting in a rocking chair – simply rocking backwards and forwards going nowhere.”
5. They trust their gut. They’ve learned to trust their own judgment - how to discern the difference between excitement fear v's terrified fear, feedback v’s gaslighting or personal attack and good v’s bad advice, even if the bad advice is delivered by someone who is more mature, more authoritative etc. They know how to navigate through it and get to what's important.
So excited! So proud.
A Winning Case Study
One wonderful client was feeling overwhelmed, as she prepared to go on holiday. She suggested to me that she would mothball nominating for an Award until 2019. Others around her were all in agreement, because it was true. She was worn out.
You can imagine my response.
There had to be a smarter way. Old thinking such as working hard, brand busy and relentless execution will only get you so far and will keep you worn out. What about a new and easier way of tackling this?
As a result she has now not only effortlessly nominated for one Award, but found another Award opportunity while she was away, and felt so good about herself after the process that she created two more Award nomination opportunities upon her return. All this while lying poolside on a drop and flop holiday!
I’ll keep you posted on how she goes. Wish her luck!
Here's the Twist - These Attitudes Also Keep you Younger Longer
These attitudes that my clients are displaying may also keep them younger longer. Researchers are finding that your mental patterns could be harming, or helping, your telomeres — essential parts of the cell’s DNA — and effecting your life and health, according to Nobel-winning scientist Elizabeth Blackburn and health psychologist Elissa Epel.
The tops three issues that that damage your telomeres and contribute to you aging faster?
- Cynical hostility
Not only will all three take years off your life, but they will also keep you playing small.
So ditch the negativity and rumination and adopt a more positive approach and you win hands down. And to borrow a phrase from a catchy ditty from the 80’s – “Don’t worry, be happy”.
And if it hasn't happened to you yet, it will. Keep the faith.
► YOUR THOUGHTS? Have you noticed a more positive mindset helps with your career, health and happiness? And what do you do to maintain that positivity?
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