Why is it that asking for help is so hard?
As someone with a fierce, independent blueprint, I frequently don’t know I need help, nor how to ask for it, until it’s almost too late
This leaves me overwhelmed, ready to throw in the towel or running on empty.
I'm not alone. Many strong, amazing, ambitious, executive women share with me they also feel this way. Examples include:
feeling as though we ought to muscle through the work life juggle all on our own
when we land a new role and bury ourselves, head down, backside up, as we attempt to prove our worth
when preparing to negotiate for an increase in salary
when we're stuck in a role that we've outgrown or with a boss we've bypassed and we don't know how to navigate through
when we're in over our head with professional and personal commitments because we don't know how to say no
or when we've simply run out of puff at the end of a big week and started to believe that we're simply not enough.
When we leave a problem too long it can escalate or turn into a crisis, which could have been averted far more easily.
Or we miss out on what's potentially available because we couldn't see the wood for the trees.
And that’s a waste.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, ignorance, laziness, that you aren't independent enough, or that you are lacking in some way.
It could simply mean you are smart and know how to leverage time and resources well.
Research also tells us that we underestimate how willing others are to help out by a whopping 50%
“There's basically nothing human beings do that's more rewarding and gives them a bigger boost of self-esteem than being helpful” says researcher Heidi Grant
Being strong independent women who are proud to celebrate #IWD2019 doesn’t mean we have to go it all alone. In fact, when we all work on this together, we’ll get a better outcome anyway.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness - it’s a sign of strength
Learning to ask for help in the right way, might just become your new super power
YOUR THOUGHTS? Why do we hate to ask for help? Or is this your super power? Drop me a note and let me know firstname.lastname@example.org
And happy International Women's Day on Friday.
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