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6 ideas to get you started on a bigger, better, bolder, more beautiful, bodacious & brilliant year

6 ideas to get you started on a bigger, better, bolder, more beautiful, bodacious and brilliant 2018!!!

I'm not a fan of New Year's Resolutions per se. I am a bigger fan of the notion of 'off with the old, so you can get on with the bigger, better, bolder, more beautiful, bodacious & brilliant'. After all, if you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got.

My mum used to refer to me as unsentimental when it came to keeping old things like clothing, knick knacks and furniture. I learned to be. In one 12 month period way back when in my late 20's, I moved 7 times. It helped me develop 'the muscle' required.

Well your career and life are the same. Some of us keep on piling on with new ideas, bigger 'n better goals, maybe an increase in pay or two, along with more and more responsibility ... until the wheels start to fall off.

Getting laid off, or having a career/life defining moment where you're forced to re-evaluate, while incredibly tough in the moment, can sometimes be a blessing in disguise. Think of the old frog in a heating saucepan analogy. And the phoenix rising from the ashes.

Sometimes you didn't know you were better off out until something happened, and then you got out. 

In the absence of getting laid off, or having a career/life defining moment, here are some tactics you can use to force yourself to re-evaluate so that you don't get caught out in the future.

My plans for 2018!

My plans for 2018!

1. Write yourself a list of 50 things you are grateful for achieving in 2017. Personal AND professional. Don't hold back. You may have had the worst year ever, but in between there will be some gold - a new friendship, a significant learning, an opportunity. It will not only remind you of the wins and achievements, but help you reframe the things that didn't really go your way, and also help you identify opportunities or room for improvement in others.

2. Do set some goals and targets for 2018. But along with your goals, identify how you want to feel when you achieve those goals. Try setting your goals with an abundance mindset, an 'effortless ease' approach with some health, wellness and energy qualifiers attached. Landing a salary of $450K might be a great goal, but is it doing work you love with people you like working with? Is your voice respected and are you making a difference? Don't forget to ditch the old 'hard work' or 'busy is better' mindset so you don't wear yourself out in the process, ensuring you get there fresh as a daisy, or skidding in with a glass of bubbles having the time of your life instead.

3. If there was one big, hairy, audacious move you could choose to execute that would help you achieve your goals, what would that be? On a scale of 1 - 10 (with 10 being incredibly scary) how much does this scare you?  If you answered 8, 9 or 10, then it's big enough. Put it on your list. 

Don't let the big, hairy, audaciousness of a move scare you. After all, how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time!

4. Do a drain and sustain audit. If you've worked with me already you know how good this is. Don't delay, do it today! And then schedule it again for 6 months time.

5. Ask yourself -"whats the dumbest thing I do around here?Make a list. You'll find heaps. Your staff can do this too. Once you've identified a few, get rid of them. ASAP.

6. Another variation on #3, #4 & #5 is to examine your plan for friction points. Where in your life do you have friction? Last year I did this process on my travel, because as much as I love travelling I don't sleep well in hotels which wears me out (friction). Instead of grinning and bearing it, I now have corporate arrangements in Sydney and Brisbane, in hotels I know I can get a solid 8 hours. Easy peasy. I can't wait to get started again!!! (Sydney tomorrow).

If you want help with any of this, let me know. I'm doing it all myself right now as I prepare for #WomenOfImpact2018 kick off.

And remember - you can think about an apple, you can study it, teach others about it, video it or put photos on Instagram of said apple. But until you eat the thing, you don't really know what the apple is like.

So just do it.

Then let me know when you're done!

Here's to your bigger, bolder, better, more beautiful, bodacious and brilliant 2018!


from invisible to invincible!

Women of Impact 2018


It's going to be brilliant!




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Five ninja success techniques to help you hit your straps more easily

The last couple of months have seen a bunch of my clients win some seriously big wins. (Go team Ambition!!) And it got me curious. Are there any common themes?

  • Was is their age?
  • Was it the organisations they work for?
  • Or was it they work in masculine or feminine dominated industries?

And while it’s easy to put success down to IQ, luck or timing, that’s not what I can see is really happening. In fact, not at all.

So to help you achieve your own Big Hairy Audacious Goals more easily, here are some of the key themes in their approaches ......

1. A really clearly defined big goal or vision - with room to manoeuvre.

  • A vision of wanting to be CEO of an ASX listed organisation in 10 years time - means that the immediate short term tactics and timeframes around leadership, promotions and career progression are simple.
  • A vision around wanting to be "Head of .." – helps you define a clear pathway along which to travel – what to study, who to connect with, which peak bodies to be part of or what substantive work projects you need to put your hand up for

A study of a Harvard Business School class, demonstrated that people who wrote down their goals earned on average 10 times more than any of their classmates. This is big. Learn more here.

 2. A willingness to do what it takes - even if that made them feel uncomfortable.

  • If that meant late nights, weekend work in preparation and finding time between the cracks to craft an approach or to prepare for their session with me - then that's what they did.
  • If that meant six interview rehearsal sessions with me, then they booked six rehearsal sessions with me. And turned up for each one with a willingness to hear feedback, refine and improve.
  • If that meant letting go of attitudes, mindsets or beliefs that were getting in the way, then they simply let go. And yes, getting out of your comfort zone does feel uncomfortable. But remember, that’s where the magic happens!
I never dreamed about success. I worked for it.
— Estee Lauder

3. Zero excuses -  In fact excuses don’t figure in their vocabulary

And while that might sound a bit trite, it’s true.
For example:

  • “I’m too busy” translated into “How can I make this happen despite being busy?”
  • “My boss won’t let me” translated into “What do I need to do to get my boss to hear me?" or "Is there a way to to approach this?”
  • “My husband/partner doesn’t think I need this” translated into “I think I need to do this, so I made it happen. My husband/partner will thank me later when I land my next promotion or come home with a pay rise or am not whinging about work any more.”

4. #justdoitnow - Immediacy and urgency

They all had an approach of immediacy and a sense of urgency – rather than leave things til the last minute.  One big thing I noticed was that after a session with me, those who have been more immediately successful, have all done their actions within a few days of seeing me – despite having a 2 week window of opportunity. They simply made it happen as soon as they could.

One of the benefits of this is that they nearly always come back and ask for feedback on what they’ve done so we can fine tune and refine their approach between sessions and not waste another session waiting for progress.   If leadership is a priority for you, then prioritise leadership, and yourself.
5. And finally - Buoyancy - Conversations with these women are incredibly upbeat and buoyant.

They all have strategies that help them stay afloat, so to speak, even when the proverbial hits the fan.

Dan Pink in To Sell is Human talks about the critical nature of buoyancy in a sales process. Let's face it. When you're tackling your next big career goal, you are definitely selling. You are selling yourself and the value of your work up the business, or into a new business. Buoyancy is absolutely, categorically, critical.

So buoyancy is how do you remain buoyant on the notion of rejection? What do you do before? What do you do during? What do you do after?
— Dan Pink

Helping you hit your straps


So if you're feeling like you haven't hit your straps yet, or your own goals feel a long way out of reach - then I'd suggest start adopting some of the principles above.  As always, remember:

  1. Hope is not a strategy
  2. Be prepared to make mistakes
  3. Be prepared to be uncomfortable, and
  4. Be prepared to do the work.

And I'm looking forward to hearing about your next wins and achievements!

My mission in life is to help women to play a much bigger game – change the world if you will – and do so with big ideas, big vision and big, audacious bucket loads of confidence.

Vive la révolution! #ambitionrevolution #feminineambition #LookOutCSuiteHereSheComes

Feel like your leadership journey has stalled? Email ablesing@amandablesing.com to set up a 30 min one on one to learn more. Helping clients shift from feeling invisible to becoming invincible in just 12 months