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😰Even the #girlboss needs a little pampering every now and then!!!

😰Even the #girlboss needs a little pampering every now and then!!!

Just because you have a strong, independent blueprint or just because you are a leader, doesn't mean you don't need a little help and support or even pampering every now and then.

So maybe it's time 

>> The comic is by Tatsuya Ishida from a strip called Sinfest.   See the full original here

>> The comic is by Tatsuya Ishida from a strip called Sinfest. See the full original here

  • to lift your nose up off the grindstone
  • to look up for a moment & smell the roses
  • to not mistake the map for the territory
  • and ask for a little support or help along the way 🙏

And if you know someone, who is fiercely independent and normally great at stoically coping, it's okay to offer a helping hand. 

We're all in this together and we should be #thrivingnotjustsurviving

 

>> Ask yourself - If you're too busy making everyone else look and feel good, who looks after you? 

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    Tribute to the many strong, independent, entrepreneurial women in my network! 😍

    Tribute also to International Emoji Day 🙏 on July 18, 2018

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    9 signs your sprint style might be undermining you

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    I've got a confession to make. I'm a sprinter.  In school athletics I was always the long distance lady and cross country queen. Sprinting wasn't my thing. But when it comes to work, the long slow grind is enough to drive me bananas. I like variety in the peaks and troughs, end to end nature of projects.  

    • Long slow burn with the humdrum of adminisitrivia?  Meh.  
    • Following a process and not colouring outside the lines or questioning? Boring! 
    • BAU with no end in sight? Just shoot me now. I'm yawning just thinking about it.

    However it's not all bad. My sprint style helps me to achieve more than many, deliver on massive deadlines and push the proverbial uphill. I once wrote and produced an online training course on a Sunday - videos and all! And while I was exhausted at the end, I loved every minute. Yet, the thought of going back in and auditing, editing and refining it leaves me sadly cold.

    What is sprinting?
    We all know what sprinting is. That short intense burst of speed and power used to create momentum to get over the finish line or achieve a results.

    • Sprinters sprint - and after a little digging I can see that Flo Jo's 1988 record still stands (who knew?!)
    • Project methodologies use sprinting to harness momentum and meet short term project deadlines
    • Mountain climbers sprint to the summit – have you been reading about Lhakpa Sherpa, arguably the world's greatest female Everest climber? WOW
    • And if you follow Dr Michael Mosely on the BBC (soon to be visiting Melbourne) you know that short bursts of sprinting are awesome for your fitness (HiT) and a great option for women managing cortisol overload and who still want to train

    They're exhilarating, energising, adrenalising .... and they get heaps of stuff done.  And they are the bread and butter of both The Player and The Fixer if you follow my methodology.

    When sprinting for work works?

    • When a project or strategic initiative requires a rapid burst of energy or direction change
    • When you have a new idea and want it to gain traction or launch really fast
    • When you've got a massive workload and you need to get to the finish line on time and on budget 
    • When you've got a deadline looming and need a finish line to eliminate overwork, rework or perfectionism 

    When it doesn't work? 

    • When you are in it for the long haul 
    • When you are worn out, exhausted and overwhelmed and simply don't know what to do next
    • When it's your only style of operating
    I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.
    — Douglas Adams

    How do you know?

    As a sprinter from way back, who tends to work with other highly successful sprinters as clients (yes you), I've seen and heard about all the signs. Here are nine signs that you need to recalibrate or wind back on your default sprint mode -

    1. When you get to the end of your HUGE Monday and you're exhausted already, and it's not because you had a big weekend, and it's still only Monday!
    2. When you suffer chest pains from stress at midnight as you finalise last minute updates for your 8.30am presentation the next morning 
    3. When you regularly run for (or miss) your flight because you seem to get to the airport only just in time
    4. When you submit your BAS/tax return on the last day possible - 9 x out of 10
    5. When you are using your sprint to the deadline nature as an excuse for not achieving or as an apology for work you worry isn't going to be good enough
    6. When you submit job applications at the last minute - and use this as an excuse to yourself for missing out because it was such a last minute rush
    7. When you only have two settings - flat out like a lizard drinking or flat out on the couch resting
    8. When your sprints leave you so exhausted or drained that you can't contribute any more either at the office or worse, at home (robbing from the personal to pay for the professional)
    9. When your over reliance on sprints means you have no room for creativity, daydreaming, innovation, reflection and course correction along the way

    The way you do anything is the way you do everything

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    If you ticked yes to three or more of the above, there's a fair chance you might want to examine your practices and put mechanisms in place to mitigate the risk of over reliance on your sprint nature. Because if you're over reliant on sprinting in one area of your life you're probably doing it in others and haven't even noticed yet.  

    I find admin support, a coach, accountability, team members who are different styles (yes, diversity), or building in micro deadlines along the way, are all great tactics. Pick one, pick them all. Mitigate the risk of self sabotage.

    And the Gold Standard?  Using the sprint as it was intended, as just one of the tools in your toolkit.  Not relying on the sprint as your only modus operandi.

    Have your say

    • What's your style? Do you rely on sprints? Or do you have more of a slow burn type of approach? Or do you have another tool in your toolkit? 
    • And what ever your approach, what do you do to ensure that it's not your only approach? 
    • Drop me an email because your ideas might just help someone else 

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    Take charge of the narrative before it takes charge of you!

     
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    Time to D.E.C.O.M.P.R.E.S.S.

    Yesterday I saw a guy in a suit, singing on the beach.

    He was walking along, headset in and belting out a tune with not a worry in the world.

    He seemed happy, relaxed and he didn’t care what other people think.

    After my initial response wondering if he was OK, I realised that I want some of that relaxed, not a care in the world sensation too

    Thank goodness for holidays!

    When you operate in a state of constant high alert, pressure & stress, it triggers a fight or flight response.

    Just like fear.

    Chemical signals that wash through your brain and body - the same as if you had to run from a sabre toothed tiger!

    But you didn’t

    Instead, you’re wrestling with a cocktail that’s far more deadly - deadlines, KPIs, office politics, reputation management, expectations, disappointment, guilt, fear and comparisons.

    The impact? 

    You risk becoming small - invisible & dismissible - far less likely to belt out Broadway tunes on a  the beach.

    Time to decompress!

    Wisdom traditions teach us to decompress regularly.

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    Modern neuroscience teaches us the same.

    This holiday period reflect on the following

    "your best ideas rarely happen in front of the computer"

    Then unplug, get grounded, laugh, hug, spend time with people who matter most, get outdoors and take a break

    Decompress.

    Here’s to a big, bold, bodacious & brilliant 2018!

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    112 million reasons why doing less might be far better for executive women

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    Melanie Whelan is the CEO of Soulycle in the USA - an incredibly successful spin studio business that has taken the industry by storm, yet started just 10 years ago in a candle lit basement.  

    Now with 60+ studios, thousands of full and part time employees and revenues that exceed USD$112 million/annum, plus a company culture that is shattering expectations and standards in the USA, she is a role model for many. 

    The demands on her in her day are endless and relentless and this is one of her strategies for keeping focused and strategic is to disconnect from her day in order to let the priorities settle.

    "I play mental Tetris to let the pieces of my day fall into place, so I can come out and really prioritise ...... I can be busy with a million things, but to have impact, it’s got to be a couple things and without the disconnection for me, I’m not able to see where that is.”  - Melanie Whelan, CEO Soulcycle


    Sometimes we imagine we need to be busy and productive all the time in order to be successful and have impact, when quite the opposite is true. Research tells us time and time again that downtime and recalibration are invaluable - allowing us to regroup, reenergise and course correct if we need.

    So try it.  Take a moment, disconnect and allow your priorities to recalibrate once again.

    Feminine leadership superpowers + downtime & recalibration = priceless
     

    Feeling like it's your time to put yourself first? Book in a 45 min one on one  phone call with me to learn more.


    Vive la révolution! #ambitionrevolution #LookOutCSuiteHereSheComes #feminineambition

    #success #career #executivebranding #leadership  #executivewomen #careerfutureproofing

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    What's your Force Multiplier?

    Last week I wrote about Tipping/Tripping Points - that imaginary line in the sand where you go from "everything is wonderful" to "OMG, what's wrong with me!?" in one fell swoop.  

    This week I've reflected on force multipliers - and if you don't have one, you need to go find one ... immediately.

    A force multiplier is a military term for tools that help you amplify your efforts to produce more output. Basically, you get more done with the same amount of effort, or more bang for your buck.

    In terms of my own force multiplier - it's yoga. When I manage to make time to practice yoga regularly the benefits are astounding ....

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    1. I feel happier
    2. I'm far more creative
    3. My memory is better which gives the impression of being smarter and more in control
    4. I've got more energy and
    5. I'm pretty confident I'm a nicer person to be around (upbeat, less reactive, on an even keel)

    Since getting back into a regular yoga practice it's as though I've taken my car in for a service. Everything is running far more efficiently. The benefits are manifold - both personally and professionally.

    Okay, so I have a love affair with my yoga practice. But there is probably something in your life that does the same for you. Maybe it's cooking, spending time with your friends/kids, getting out in the garden, clocking up pavement time by walking/running/cycling, tinkering under the bonnet of your car or even writing. When you spend time doing this thing time drops away, you feel an increased sense of well being and back in control. Plus it gives you renewed energy to tackle big, hairy, ambitious projects again.

    Health and well-being as one of the biggest issues cited by women for leaving the workforce
    — according to Pat Milligan, Mercer's Global Leader of When Women Thrive at the Women World Changers Conference Sydney October 2016

     

    So my question to you is:

    "Why is it that when the proverbial hits the fan, our force multipliers are some of the first things to drop away?"

    When we get busy we are far more likely to drop the very things that would help us cope (or even power through) more easily.  

    As you know I'm a big believer in systems and routines the keep you successful. After all, you wouldn't keep Tim Tams in the cupboard if you were going on a diet.  

    • So what can you put in place that will help systematise your force multiplier?
    • What can you do to 'routinise' the things that keep you successful?
    • How can you make sure that you are prioritising the very things that are really important over the things that others expect of you, or your perfectionist self expects of yourself?

    And do let me know, because your ideas maybe of huge benefit to someone else in this network.

    There is an old Zen saying -

    “You should sit in meditation for 20 minutes every day — unless you’re too busy; then you should sit for an hour.”

    While meditation and yoga might not be your thing, the same principle applies. Don't stop doing the very things that keep you performing at your best at the very time you need them most.

    Vive la révolution! #ambitionrevolution #LookOutCSuiteHereSheComes #feminineambition

    Feel like your leadership journey has stalled? Email ablesing@amandablesing.com to set up a 30 min one on one to learn more. Helping clients shift from feeling invisible to becoming invincible in just 12 months