The communication habits that can undermine women's power - DAILY LIFE

Thanks to Karina Lane - Daily Life, SMH & The Age for interviewing me.

NOVEMBER 12 2017

Article by Karina Lane

Article by Karina Lane

I'm pretty passionate about helping women into the C-suite, and sometimes it's our language and mannerisms that can get in the way. Firstly because they are different to those of the incumbent at times which can contribute to "exclusion" and secondly, because they've not been a problem before if you worked in mostly feminised industries or in lower level roles, so you may not know that there is any difference or what is going wrong.

Being able to sharpen all the tools in your leadership toolkit is awesome.  Language and communication habits fit in this toolkit. Sometimes it's as simple as one small change to a verbal habit and it can make ll the difference.

As someone heading into the C-suite, self awareness and personal development will be part and parcel of your journey. There are times when you need to acknowledge that another way might be more helpful.  

Thanks to Karina for interviewing me for her article in Daily Life.


"I spent years working on my confidence, and knew the ins and outs of assertive communication. I was all about girl power. Apologise for taking up space? Not this lady.
But then I read Tara Mohr's book Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create and Lead. Mohr argues that women constantly diminish their power with speech habits that make us appear apologetic, surprised or even uncertain about what we're saying. This means our ideas and opinions are unappreciated and not valued."

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