18 Powerful Cover Letter Tips That Cut Through The Clutter

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I've been vetting a bunch of cover letters this week. Well done to everyone who gave it a crack! It's hard I know. Writing about yourself as though you are the best thing since sliced bread, when sometimes you don't feel like that. 

But the higher up the food chain you go, the fewer and further apart are opportunities. Plus data tells us that people stay longer in c-suite roles so it's going to be even more competitive. 

Your cover letter skills will have significant impact on your ability to land an interview, in addition to working your network. 

But the differences between 'killer cover letters' and the 'works in progress' are extreme.  Works in progress include passive language, compliant statements rather than confident positioning, going above and beyond.  Ask yourself, what would a confident more leader-like version of myself do? How would she apply?

As a result, here are a bunch of thoughts in no particular order to help you get your cover letter mojo back on.

  1. The purpose of your cover letter is to get your CV read - not to win the job, or even necessarily to win an interview. But to get someone to go "Wow, she sounds ideal. I need to read her CV". 

  2. Think of it as a business case - helping you develop the justification for your application. Why should someone invest in reading your CV? Not because you deserve it, but because your experience and expertise sounds like it would add value, that you have the potential to be awesome in the role and here's why....

  3. It needs to tick off on key criteria in the advert - don't just provide examples from your work that you like or that sell the sizzle. Provide examples of your work that match the criteria they're asking for. Don't worry, you can do the value add near the bottom of the letter. Don't start with the value add or they'll think you're over qualified or not the right fit

  4. It needs to address any big elephants in the room (ie you live in Sydney but the role is in Melbourne and you're keen to relocate). 

  5. You need to help the reader to see why you're ideal for the role with as many exact match credibility builders as you can (without going over 1 page, or cramming too much on the page via a smaller font or too wide margins)

  6. You also get the opportunity to add a FEW non critical assets in that you think might sway the argument your way - Boards, Awards, Accolades & Opportunities, Global blue chip experience, high profile brands you've worked with or MBA/PhD or equivalent. Don't stack the cover letter with these. But one or two that help the business case.

  7. Matchy matchy - use the exact wording of the advert or PD. Don't get creative and find different ways of saying it. They're either in a hurry skim reading, or sending it through a software scanner so it needs to be exact

  8. Buzz word bingo - don't be afraid to play buzz word bingo with the acronyms, key terms or vernacular expressions that are required in your industry

  9. Captain Obvious - you may feel like you're explaining the obvious. What might feel obvious to you, may be totally mystifying to a reader who doesn't know you, your current company or the sort of work you do. Don't make people read between the lines. Don't be cryptic.

  10. Sound confident. Confident is mistaken for competence. Confidence is queen. Ask yourself - what would the confident Rockstar me do? How would the confident Rockstar me write this cover letter? What examples would she use?  Nice is not enough. At this level of your career it needs to next level.

  11. Avoid trying to sound funny - research tells us that funny doesn't work for women when someone doesn't know us. It works for us when people know us, but not before. 

  12. Avoid trying to sound privileged - privilege works for men, not women. (Private schools, prestige clubs etc - I know, it's unfair but until times change don't run the risk) The assumption is that if you're privileged you'll not be hungry enough so you are more likely to "lean out" or take career breaks. 

  13. More is not necessarily better - Keep your business case succinct. If you get to interview, then you can expand on your examples. White space on a cover letter makes it easier to read as well

  14. It must include relevant factual examples from your career history - a credibility booster

  15. Anchor examples with time, job title and company - this builds credibility even more. We're addicted to time and place narrative form (once upon a time in a land far far away). It makes us feel safe. So the reader will feel far safer if you include these anchors in your cover letter.

  16. Don't be apologetic or start negative. - don't start your cover letter saying that while ouu don't have XYZ experience they ask for, you do have ABC experience. 

    On that note I want you to remember my brother. A couple of Xmases ago he sent an email home to mum saying he couldn't be there for Xmas. Of course that's the bit that mum read and remembered. She had an initial disappointed reaction. It was some time later that she went onto read that he would be there for the 5 days prior to Xmas. 

    You don't want a reader to do that with you or they might simply dump your business case/cover letter before they get to the bit with the good news.

    So start with the positive and the good news before you get address the elephants.

  17. Always be sending cover letters - even if you need to use PDF Pro to add it to the front page of your CV to submit via a web portal.

  18. Keep it professional - no need to refer to hobbies or other activities in your personal life unless it's something they've asked you to address or enables you to demonstrate a great fit - ie they're asking for someone with grit and determination and the best example you have is your recent ultra-triathlon win. However use sparingly.

I'm sure there are more, but this should give you a great head start.

And good luck! 

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I used to be a wallflower .... what about you?

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I used to be a wallflower.

Always shy and retiring, never saying boo to a goose or putting a foot out of place.

I was worried I’d be wrong, that people wouldn’t like me and that I’d get found out.

This left me constantly waiting - watching from the sidelines while other people’s careers overtook mine at what appeared to be warp speed! 

Then something happened. I worked with a coach and worked out I needed to eliminate the following:

  • the need to do everything

  • the need to be liked

  • the need to be perfect

  • the need to know everything

  • the need be right, and

  • the need be in control

When I let go of neediness, articulating my perspective, sharing my ideas or self-promoting became far easier.

I know I’m not alone. 
Every day I speak with busy executives who share a similar story and are nervous of standing out.

"What if deep down I'm actually not good enough?"
"What of someone calls me out?"

But when you are blending into the background, your pathway to leadership is always going to be a tough gig. A the longer you play second fiddle,  the bigger your fears will become.

Remember - you cannot sell a secret.  And it's important you are seen, heard and valued.

So let go of the above needs, then spend time to work out

Why fit in when you were born to stand out?
— Dr Seuss
  1. What are you interested in? Find your passion

  2. Why are you doing this? Find your purpose

  3. Where will you get best ROI? Find a platform or medium that works for you

Then self promotion becomes a doddle.

And you'll be replacing wallflower with world class in a jiffy!


Your thoughts? What stops you self promoting?  Drop me a note. I'm always keen to hear your perspective. 

PS you might have noticed I've had a photoshoot done. This one features "the bees knees" and other fun ways of reminding yourself that you're actually doing okay. Looking forward to sharing more with you in coming months.

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Do you save these critical skills for that perfect moment?

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How often have you gone for your dream role, where you knew you could not only lead but succeed, only to be told that someone else blew the interview panel out of the water and so you missed out?

I don’t mind losing as long as I see improvement or I feel I’ve done as well as I possibly could.
— Carol Dweck

Yet we all save up our most critical career management skills for special occasions, treating them just like our Sunday best outfit. 

Instead, as part of your career strategy, these skills need refining, honing and testing regularly, just like every thing else we do.

Winning and landing roles gets far easier with practice. This may mean throwing your hat in the ring for a role every now and then, even if you aren’t sure you really want it.

Given that the literature tells us that women self select out of high competition opportunities far too soon, this is important. We're not giving ourselves enough practice runs. We're saving it all up until we find the perfect opportunity. Then we shoot ourselves in the foot because of the process or performance, not because we wouldn't be great in the role.

To help convince you that it's not a waste of time, here are six great reasons why you should dust off these skills at least once a year and get some practice runs on the board.

1. It keeps your career toolkit up to date: There is nothing so terrifying as a late night CV update for your dream role. While a good deadline does galvanise action, why not be prepared in advance? Make success your only viable option by applying for a one or two key roles every year. This way you are forced to update your toolkit regularly. 

2. It helps you practice the process: You are building and refining your job application skills and process - from socialising the idea, to reaching out via our networks to learn more or to gain some visibility into the process, to crafting a cunning cover letter that cuts through the clutter, to upgrading then tailoring your CV, actually applying, then possibly interviewing, follow up and more ..... Phew! It's overwhelming! Better to do this more frequently so it's not such a mammoth task all in a rush for the job of a lifetime where the stakes are so high that you run the risk of underperforming.

3. It builds your interview muscle (if you should get so lucky): If you win an interview, you get to develop your Interviewing muscle - not only to get back in the saddle and remember how to talk about yourself and your achievements, but to remember how to manage stress, gauge the responses to your answers, to flex, respond and reframe in the interview as required. And if you don't win an interview, that's evidence you need to go back and refine step 1 and 2. It's great data. Do the work.

4. It’s a signal:  By throwing your hat in the ring, especially for an internal promotion, this signals to the leadership team that you are keen for more. Perfect for when your boss resigns, and you may not want the role, but you want to demonstrate you are hungry for advancement. 

5. Reinvention: If you do have an opportunity internally, yet you are not sure you really want it, consider this - by applying and going through the process, you have a great opportunity to reinvent yourself and challenge others perceptions about what else might be possible for you. In a nutshell, you get to tackle any misconceptions about you head on with the interview panel. Decision makers get to see you in a different light and if done well, this is a great door opener.

6. Test your value: If you don't value yourself, no-one else will either. Your career strategy quite possibly has some alignment with salary, commensurate with the value of your expertise and experience. By testing your value in the market regularly you find out more. You are fact finding.

Stay strategic

You don't want to be doing this every month or every week. Once a year is a great rule of thumb. I heard a story of an HR Director who had this annual process. He had been with the company 10+ years. They had not only been happy years, but he had delivered some great initiatives as well. When the time was right he was perfectly poised to move on - his career toolkit sharpened and honed, ready to springboard him into the perfect opportunity. So he did. In one easy application and interview process.

That's not disloyal. That simply smart.

Stay curious

Even if you are in a great role, stay curious, dust of these skills at least once a year and give yourself the chance to learn and improve. The higher up the food chain you go, the opportunities are fewer and further in-between so the competition will be stronger. Unless (as one client said to me after 20+ years in the one organisation) you want to be “taken out in a coffin”, you'd better get some practice runs in when the stakes are lower.

It's not a waste of time either

What’s the worst thing that can happen? You might land the role and have to graciously decline. The opportunity wasn’t quite right for you at this time, but you’d love to talk to them about further opportunities more in alignment with your ultimate goals down the track.

And graceful rejection is also a great skill to refine.

It’s not a waste of time. It helps both sides of the equation work out what they really want and who they really need, now and in the future. And maybe next time, you will be the one to blow them out of the water.

Your thoughts? Drop me a note with your thoughts on this. Do you save these skills up like your Sunday best? Or do you take them out for a test run every year? Let me know.

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Seven Incredibly Expensive Self Promotion Excuses Typical for Executive Women

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You are the story teller of your own life, and you can create your own legend, or not
— Isabel Allende

If you do a Google search for how to self promote without sounding like you're bragging you'll get 2.5 MI+L hits. It's a big concern for both men and women with societal and cultural norms and biases forming part of this minefield.

It can be even tougher for women when it comes to self promotion, as you know. We're damned when we do, yet doomed when we don't. We want a career that really counts. We want to feel as though we are seen, heard AND valued, but it can sometimes feel like balancing on a knife edge. 

Sometimes we even wonder why we bother.

Yet when we don't self promote we miss out on plum assignments, juicy salary increases or bonuses in line with our male peers and equally importantly, we miss out on being perceived as a serious C-suite contender.   

Remember, our society confuses confidence with competence, and self promotion with confidence will help you not only get ahead, but be perceived as better at your role as well.

Over the years I’ve heard lots of reasons why people don’t self promote and I believe the following seven excuses will cost you  $10's of $1000's in salary over the course of your career.

  1. I just need to do great work - Remember the famous “build it and they will come” line from Kevin Costner's Field of Dreams?  He had built a baseball stadium and people magically turned up from all over to attend simply because he built it. In a highly competitive job market, where we confuse confidence with competence, you simply cannot afford to assume that people will see the value or commercial application of your experience or expertise. Additionally, algorithms, short attention spans and rapidly changing technologies rule the world. It’s really hard to sell a secret, so you'll need to do far more than create a program, post something on LinkedIn, or just do great work. You also need to sell the value of the great work you do - ergo you need to self promote.

  2. My results should speak for themselves - this is the most common expression I hear from busy executives who are beginning their self promotion journey.  Nearly everyone has this inner mental script. "It's not fair. I shouldn't have to tell my boss about how well I did. They should see for themselves, because it's their job to manage me."  Success will belong to those who can speak to their own results without sounding like they're bragging. In fact, success comes more easily to those who even do sound they’re bragging, than those who don’ t speak up at all. Start practicing now.

  3. When I land a new role, I don’t need to self promote any more - another really common misconception.  The most ambitious and successful women I work with know this. They keep self promoting even when they start a new role.  In fact, even more so. They stay visible both inside and outside the business, but they change the balance towards heavier internal self promotion to help them fast track their success in the first 6 months, and lighter external self promotion to ensure people outside the organisation remember who they are.  There is nothing worse than being buried in everything new with no room to do much more than survive, only to emerge after your first 6 months and find out that people have forgotten you exist.  People are fickle, attention spans are short, and there is always someone hungrier. Stay visible people. Stay visible. 

  4. I don’t really need the credit or recognition - another really common excuse, particularly after someone has missed out on a payrise, promotion or recognition. Yes you do, because that's the currency of the organisation you work in. If you don't value yourself enough to claim credit, others won't either, and someone else may just take credit on your behalf. It’s a sign of healthy self respect to claim credit where credit is due. If you don’t respect yourself, others will also take you for granted. Once again, start practicing now.

  5. I have to do this on my own - peer promotion is a great addition to your self promotion toolkit. And it really works for women because it doesn’t trigger reactions about socialised stereotype biases. It's GREAT to have others on your side who can fly the flag for brand you, reinforce your opinion or even remind others how great you are. It’s far easier for me to say out loud that “Michelle is a Rockstar”. It’s far harder for me to say that about myself. So build out a team of peers or others who are also interested in career advancement but not competing with you. Then help them to help you by providing them with evidence of your results and examples of what you do. Ask for references on LinkedIn, ask for positive feedback about your leadership brand. Your peers or others may just help you achieve Rockstar status without you having to sweat it out.

  6. I've got great sponsors/mentors/champions so I'll be okay - I’ve written about this before and I can’t write about it enough because I see so many women who’ve hit a certain spot in their career, who have never had to self promote previously, and all of a sudden they don’t know how and it feels incredibly hard. Sponsors mentors and champions are great. Do what ever you can do ensure you have the backing of great sponsors, mentors and champions in addition to peers who support. But these people may resign, retire or are made redundant and then you are left hanging out to dry with no self promotion muscle, because you've never had to do it for yourself before.  You do need to develop your own skills (in addition to having great sponsors mentors and champions) so you can carve out your own career path. As leadership expert, Avril Henry wisely says

    "No-one is as interested in your career as you are. So do something about it!”

  7. We imagine it’s “all about me “ - in fact, the most subtly powerful self promotion is very rarely all about me. Remember the line from ABC’s Kath and Kim - "Look at moi, look at moi, look at moi"?   Unskillful self promoters, who we all try and avoid, make it all about them. Boring. And quite challenging. When we make it about the self, it’s far more likely you’ll become self conscious or worried you’ll appear self absorbed or self centred. Instead when you take the self out of self promotion and make it all about the problems you solve, the difference you make and the value you add, you'll do far better. Take it one step further and make sure that this is in service to others, and you'll be self promoting like a Rockstar within no time.

These excuses are really common. I should know. Because I say them to myself as well. And the best fix is to stay curious, keep learning and keep on self promoting until you get much better. Self promotion Rockstar status is not that far away!

Keep me posted. Let me know how you go. Drop me an email or a message via LinkedIn and share your best tactics

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Funny, not funny - how humour is good for men but bad for women at work

Funny is good for men but bad for women?!? 🤣😱😳 

Yet another way that sexism can suck the fun out of being a woman at work! 

A recent study showed that women are penalised for being funny at work especially by those who don’t know her. 

“This is the most annoying study ever” ~ to quote Jessica Stillman on Inc magazine 

Humour can be viewed 

  • as "functional" or 

  • as "disruptive" 

The clincher? ALLEGEDLY men's humour is perceived as functional and women's as disruptive. 

Despite most women being conscientious, diligent and more compliant, the stereotype is that we’re more easily distracted, and given career breaks, less dedicated to our career. 

We’re busy “barely coping”, while men are perceived as more strong, dedicated and determined. 

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“When a woman cracks jokes, therefore, she's judged to be less dedicated because that's what many people are primed to see” 

There is an upside. 

The study assessed how strangers view women's humour. 

However, when it comes to dealing with a team over time, being hilarious may be a real asset. 

YOUR TURN - Have you seen humour help or hinder? And no, this is not an April Fools Day joke. I'm happy to be a disrupter 🤣 

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We are all responsible for gender equality

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What’s the benefit of doing an International Women’s Day 2019 breakfast? Plenty, if recent statistics about gender equality in Australia are any indication of how far we have yet to go.

According to the Global Gender Gap Report 2018, while Australian women may have achieved parity with men for educational attainment, ranking equal first with a number of other nations, it is not translating to the workplace where we are ranked -

  • 46th in the world for Economic Participation and Opportunity, and worse,

  • 49th for Political Empowerment.


This inequality was brought to light when I recently hosted a table at the #balanceforbetter Rotary Breakfast for International Womens Day 2019 at Crown. The panel was comprised of:

  • Catherine Fox - Journalist, author and presenter

  • Kristen Hilton, Victorian Human Rights and Equal Opportunity Commissioner

  • Josh Bornstein, Director, Maurice Blackburn

  • Fiona Patten, Founder and leader of the Reason Party and politician

  • Rob Hulls, Director, Centre for Innovative Justice

  • Dr Emma Burrows, Research Fellow

Our table had a wonderful discussion on this topic.

As it turns out, “at the current rate of change true gender equality is predicted to still be 117 years away!”

And yet, there should be no reason for the gender gap to remain. According to the Victorian government website:

  • Australia’s GDP would increase by 11% if the gender employment gap was closed.

  • The Australian economy would gain $8 BILLION if women transitioned from tertiary education into the workforce at the same rate as men.

  • Businesses with at least 30% women in leadership positions are 15% more profitable.


Additionally, “it prevents violence against women and girls. Gender equality makes for a more cohesive society. Countries with greater gender equality are more connected. Their people are healthier and have better wellbeing.”


And as Hilary Clinton said back in 1995, when she was the First Lady, when she delivered a speech at the United Nations Fourth World Conference on Women in Beijing

Women’s rights are human rights


So how do we continue the work of closing the gender gap?

In the workplace, “it’s not enough to add a 'diversity and inclusion' policy to your organisation and expect that will be enough to fix problems with representation and culture. That change needs to be supported by those at the top.”

We heard from our expert panel about strategies to reduce the gender gap. For example -

  • In the legal profession, this includes hitting the hip pocket for organisations who don’t meet gender equity targets.

  • In schools, males also need to be included and involved. One speaker reflected that she is invited to speak at a lot of girls schools, but no boys schools. Given that gender balance benefits women and men alike, it’s so important for men to understand as early as possible that imbalance affects them too.

  • It’s not a zero sum game.” Contrary to Scott Morisson’s recent comments, “it’s not at the expense of men and we need to ensure we articulate this better as it will only be through demonstrating to men and boys and involving them early that we can speed this up.”

  • Mothers, aunts” as well as other female roles in the family, “are well placed to influence this and demonstrate gender equality... (to) ensure a better and more cohesive society.”


And these are why events like this breakfast are so important - to inform us, and unite us, to make the change we seek, like the experience of those who attended:

“I get so re-energised and refocused by these things.”

“This spurs me to challenge myself and others to step up more to create change.”

I can do things you cannot, you can do things I cannot. Together we can do great things.
— Mother Theresa

A big thank you to the my guests who attended and contributed to the sentiment and comments in this article: Therese Chakour-West, Nicola Wilson, Gillian Laging, Diane Barbis, Christine Elmer, Caroline Clarke, Kate Westacott, Kerry-Ann Benton, Sue Neal

YOUR THOUGHTS? What else can we do to bring about gender equality? How can you achieve gender equality in the workforce? Drop me a line at ablesing@amandablesing.com 

 
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Lead Like a Leading Woman

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"I don't think I'm displaying leadership. I just think I'm displaying humanity," said Jacinda Ardern, PM, NZ, in the wake of terror attacks against Muslims in NZ.

Which begs the question, why is this so unusual that we take notice? Why don’t more leaders display humanity?

My heart goes out to those affected by this tragedy.

My admiration goes out to a leader not afraid to show compassion.

READ MORE - SMH article in the link https://lnkd.in/fVQwip3

Credit: SMH article World's tallest building lit up with image of Jacinda Ardern, by Joel MacManus Photo taken by Wellington photographer Hagen Hopkin

Vive la révolution! #ambitionrevolution #LookOutCSuiteHereSheComes #feminineambitionrocks 

 
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Have You Got the Courage to Step Into the Limelight?

Many of the executive women I work with are truly courageous as they start putting themselves out there to be judged, leading more fully, and doing so anyway without waiting to be invited.

The last 12 months has seen so many of my clients ditching their old "wallflower" brand to

  • become finalists or win awards

  • land board positions

  • tackle conference speaking gigs

  • get published in international publications

  • receive substantive increases in salary

  • win big, exciting new roles, and

  • feeling as though they are truly world class.

Kudos.

It takes confidence, courage and vision to lead more visibly. Delighted I can be part of their journey. From invisible to invincible and beyond!

What would it take to help you to step into the limelight and gain the recognition you truly deserve?

From Invisible to invincible - and beyond!

#visibility #selfpromotionmatters #womenofimpact

 
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Develop a Possibility Mindset

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Mindset is such a critical part of self promotion and career advancement, that I include it as the first in my Seven Vital Components to Subtly Powerful Self Promotion keynote

If you think you can or you think you can’t, you will definitely be right.

Embracing a possibility mindset is the only way forward.

I challenge you to accept the POSSIBILITY that you'll be able to self promote effectively and powerfully without feeling like you are bragging, within the year.

There are four provisos:

  • Be prepared to make mistakes

  • Be prepared to feel uncomfortable (remember that's where the magic happens)

  • Be prepared to do the work

  • Be prepared to get out of your own way.

It's not just self promotion where a possibility mindset is helpful. Your entire career success may just depend upon it.

What tactics do you use to keep yourself self promoting strategically and powerfully?

#executivebranding #selfpromotionmatters #standoutcareer

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Riddle Me This!

What are the six most expensive words you can think to yourself when it comes to self promotion and your career success?

I work with busy executives who have big goals and ambitions. There is a mindset that most have in common that gets in the way when it comes to putting themselves out there and achieving their next big career steps.

It's got to do with

- not wanting to blow your own horn

- not wanting to toot your own trumpet

- not wanting to be perceived as bragging

What else is it not?

- "no I don't want a raise" or

- "no I don't want that promotion"

That would be too easy.

It's far more insidious than that.

And yet it trips us up every time.

What do you think those 6 little words are?

#personalbrand #standout #leadership  

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The day my first book was published

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Two years ago, in March, my first book was published!

I remember how excited I was and overwhelmed with how close it was to International Women's Day #IWD

Since then I've sold almost 1000 copies and still love getting notes from readers telling me how much they enjoyed it.

"Hey Amanda, I couldn't wait to tell you how great your book it is! I couldn't put it down all weekend and I want to buy a copy for all my girlfriends" said one happy reader 😎

With #IWD2019 just past, why not buy a copy to inspire a smart ’n savvy career minded woman in your life?

Step Up, Speak Out, Take Charge - A woman's guide to getting ahead in your career

Available to purchase from Amazon, Koby, Booktopia, Dymocks and even Walmart!

And keep your eye out for book #2 - From Invisible to Invincible - a self promotion handbook for executive women

Available from May 2019 ☺️

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My mission is to help women play a much bigger game – change the world if you will – with big ideas, big vision and big, audacious bucket loads of confidence.

 
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Why asking for help is a super power, not a weakness

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Never apologise for asking for what you need. If you don’t ask - the answer will always be no.
— Rachel Wolchin

Why is it that asking for help is so hard? 
 
As someone with a fierce, independent blueprint, I frequently don’t know I need help, nor how to ask for it, until it’s almost too late
 
This leaves me overwhelmed, ready to throw in the towel or running on empty.
 
I'm not alone. Many strong, amazing, ambitious, executive women share with me they also feel this way. Examples include:

  • feeling as though we ought to muscle through the work life juggle all on our own

  • when we land a new role and bury ourselves, head down, backside up, as we attempt to prove our worth

  • when preparing to negotiate for an increase in salary

  • when we're stuck in a role that we've outgrown or with a boss we've bypassed and we don't know how to navigate through

  • when we're in over our head with professional and personal commitments because we don't know how to say no

  • or when we've simply run out of puff at the end of a big week and started to believe that we're simply not enough.

When we leave a problem too long it can escalate or turn into a crisis, which could have been averted far more easily.  

Or we miss out on what's potentially available because we couldn't see the wood for the trees.
 
And that’s a waste.
 
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, ignorance, laziness, that you aren't independent enough, or that you are lacking in some way.
 
It could simply mean you are smart and know how to leverage time and resources well.  
 
Research also tells us that we underestimate how willing others are to help out by a whopping 50%

“There's basically nothing human beings do that's more rewarding and gives them a bigger boost of self-esteem than being helpful” says researcher Heidi Grant

Being strong independent women who are proud to celebrate #IWD2019 doesn’t mean we have to go it all alone.  In fact, when we all work on this together, we’ll get a better outcome anyway. 
 
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness - it’s a sign of strength
 
Learning to ask for help in the right way, might just become your new super power
 
YOUR THOUGHTS? Why do we hate to ask for help? Or is this your super power? Drop me a note and let me know ablesing@amandablesing.com 
 

And happy International Women's Day on Friday.  

#IWD2019 
#BalanceforBetter

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Feel like your leadership journey has stalled? Email ablesing@amandablesing.com to set up a 30 min one on one to learn more. Helping clients shift from feeling invisible to becoming invincible in just 12 months