How to ensure your flex arrangements work for you, not against you

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As the world of work is changing, employees are increasingly working remotely and the four walls of the workplace are evaporating
— Fay Calderone

A 2016 Report by Chief Executive Women (CEW) and Bain & Co entitled ‘The Power of Flexibility’ found that “in order to advance gender equality in the workplace, flexible arrangements must be available to and actively supported for both genders”.  From an individual perspective “where flexible arrangements are widely used, all employees are four times happier”.

Nice! Flexible work arrangements are great for both genders and make us four times happier. What's not to like?

So why is it that many of the women I speak with are hesitant to ask?  Reasons include:

  1. The boss is old fashioned and he or she will never allow it

  2. My organisation doesn’t really accommodate it – the policy is there but we don't make it easy with technology, and we need our people to be visible and on the ground

  3. I’m worried that if I do ask I’ll be perceived as though I'm not ambitious enough any more, and it will be harder to compete for plum assignments and negotiate on salary and future career opportunities.

True - these are all valid concerns, yet times are changing albeit more slowly in some industries than others. However, they are changing as organisations recognise that flexible working arrangements are incredibly helpful as a talent acquisition and retention strategy. 

“You are enabled to really attract the best talent to your organisation. If you are not limited by a specific office location, you can look anywhere in the country or anywhere on the globe.” Nicole McCabe – Director of Global Diversity and Inclusion at SAP

To assist you to carve out more flexible arrangements that are a win win for both you and your organisation – here are five issues to consider  

  1. Do ask – if you don’t ask you won’t get.

  2. Mindset - shift from thinking about trading time for money to trading impact or results for money. When you make that shift yourself its easier to see the benefits of your work for what they are which means you can articulate them more clearly to your boss. 

  3. Back yourself - Instead of Abba “take a chance on me”  think far more Kylie “you should be so lucky!” Self confidence combined with self advocacy are very compelling career assets.

  4. Make a plan, don’t just wing it – just like when you negotiate a raise, craft a plan beforehand, and include what you do want, how it helps the organisation and where your line in the sand is.

  5. Don’t accept the first no you get as “no forever” - maybe it’s “no, not right now but let’s revisit in a month” or "not sure? How about a trial for a month?"

If you are successful 

For those who have been successful in navigating this flex conversation you want to put some risk mitigation strategies in place to make sure that people don't side line or forget you exist.  They key theme is don't leave them wondering.   

  1. Proactively manage expectations and set protocols - Make sure your boss, team and customers know how and when to find you - when you are at work and when you’re not; when you’ll respond and when you won’t. 

  2. Be strategic re emailing and communications with your team, staff and boss - timing is everything. I knew a bloke once who took this to the extreme and would deliberately email the boss at 10pm at night every now and then.  It worked a treat for him, but made everyone else who knew about it feel vaguely ill and the boss look incredibly gullible. I'm not recommending that, but if you are worried your boss thinks you are skiving off, email a progress report at the end of your working day. 

  3. Be strategically visible on a regular basis so you don’t get forgotten -  When you do get into the office - stay visibile. 

One of my clients is a senior level executive, with young children and an overseas client in a very different time zone. The demands on her personally and professionally are high including spending much of her time working late nights on the client portfolio. She has flex arrangements. However, she noticed that head office staff started to bypass her in important decisions because she wasn’t perceived asbeing around. She was becoming invisible. So she came up with a plan that included making sure to stop in and have conversations with key decision makers before she headed to her own division area on the days she did come into the office. At the end of her stint in the office she would then revisit the C-level decision makers for ad-hoc visits and corridor chats before she left to work from home.  Highly visible. Highly sought after. Much more satisfied.

Drop me an email if you've got any tactics that might help others navigate flexible arrangements. 
And do get in touch if you want help with that.

Vive la révolution! #ambitionrevolutionrocks #LookOutCSuiteHereSheComes #feminineambition #success #career #standout #executivewomen #careerfutureproofing


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🌺 9 compelling reasons why you need to attend the Palm Cove Women of Impact Retreat 🌺

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PALM COVE WOMEN OF IMPACT LEADERSHIP RETREAT
1 - 3 November 2018
  Early Bird pricing to COB 21 September 

Bookings and information in the link.

The grass is greener where you water it.
— Emily Culp, Chief Marketing Officer, Keds

Finding the balance between tackling big, hairy, ambitious plans and taking downtime to reflect, can be challenging for those with big career goals and even bigger roles. 

To help you make a better decision about whether this retreat is right for you here are nine compelling reasons why you need to make time to attend.

1. Priority #1 is YOU. Not in a self indulgent, lie around the pool, drop and flop way (although there will be time for that too), but in a way that helps you let go of the old, and get on with the new. It can be hard to find time when juggling perfectionism, likability and hard work along with family, friends and fitness!  Research tells us that women in particular are very good at making others look good, but forget to do the same for themselves.  This is the perfect opportunity to make you your #1 priority. 

2. Stop being busy, start being strategic. Did you know that only 12% of executive women in CEO or MD roles say they have a career strategy according to Korn Ferry? We'll take time to map out a plan for you, so you've got some idea of where you are going in 2019 and beyond. After all, if you don't know where you are going, how will you know when you get there?  

3. The amazing Alessandra Edwards is joining the facilitation team. Alessandra is in demand with medical professionals, C-suite Executives and high flyers locally and internationally. She is an expert in the DNA of Performance and she'll be helping us unlock the core elements of energy and focus to keep you firing at your best.  She works at the cutting edge of tailored health and wellness programs. This is truly the way of the future, and we are privileged to have access to her on the program.

4. Another amazing addition to our team is ABC Journo, Penny Terry, an expert in powerful communication. Penny will show us how good storytelling and communication skills are critical along the path to influence and can change conversations from outrage to empathy and inspire collaboration over competition, helping you cut through the clutter around a Boardroom table, in meetings, in presentations or in the media.

5. It's Palm Cove!  You'll have to relax and take time out, because you simply won't be able to help yourself. Why not stay a few extra days and chill?

6. The 5 Star Award Winning Alamanda Suites - on the beach and at the quiet end of town. Enough said. 

7. All your meals catered for by the famous Nu Nu Restaurant voted the 2015 Australian Gourmet Traveller and 2017 Good Food Guide Queensland Regional Restaurant of the Year.  Did I mention dinner under the stars on the beach one evening?

8. You'll make great connections with likeminded executive women. A great location to exchange ideas, inspire and be inspired and simply learn from others in similar situations. There is a saying "your network is your net worth".  But it's not about the number of connections, but the quality of your connections. You'll have time to invest in quality relationships while at Palm Cove.

9. Because you're worth it!  

10. Bonus tip - If you live in Melbourne, it will get you out of town for that pesky horse race.  Why not stay on a few extra days? It's an unofficial long weekend in Melbourne anyway and the Alamanda is holding the room rate for you for 3 days either side. 


(Early bird discount pricing closes COB 21 September - bookings via Eventbrite)

  • Current clients and former clients receive a significant discount (or included in your 12 month agreement).

  • New clients most welcome - and the best bit? The full Retreat fee includes a 2 hour coaching session with me. Book in a 30 min one on one  phone call to learn more.

  • For anyone wanting help with a Twin Share room buddy, get in touch now. Accommodation rates held to 21 September 2018.


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Leadership lessons from a hip hop dance competition? You betcha'!

Leadership lessons for #leadingwomen from a hip hop dance competition? You betcha’!

Don’t imitate the men. 

Toni Basil, best known for her multi-million-selling worldwide 1982 hit "Mickey", which reached No 1 in several countries, reminds female hip hop artists to not forget their femininity. 

  • It doesn’t take away your strength
  • You can be as strong as you want
  • I’m talking about women accepting the femininity within them and adding it to their “dance”

Love this as a lesson in leadership for women! 

Gone are the old days of “big hair, big shoulder pads, go hard or go home”.  

And to women reading this - let’s lead like a leading woman not like a man. 

“I haven’t found myself constrained by the male models of leadership because I haven’t found them particularly inspiring, so why copy something you didn’t like?” ~ Ann Sherry AO, Carnival Australia

And Toni Basil?  At 75yo you truly inspire and not just because of your amazing dance moves. For the groovers reading this post? Check out the video - this will make your day.

#business #branding #leadership

(Video - Youtube HHI's "Real Talk”)

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When sexist comments make your blood boil ..... go postal!

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When did it become a zero sum game of being good at managing money or good at relationships? I’m pretty good at walking and chewing gum at the same time.

A funny thing happened on the way to Brisbane the other day.  I was sitting on the plane, when a man sat down next to me.  We exchanged details (him: financial columnist, me: executive coach for executive women).  The ensuing conversation (documented below), ended with me feeling frustrated, flabbergasted ..... and angry.

Oh no.  I'm "that angry woman"

The Angry Woman Stereotype

The stereotype of an angry woman is  ...... emotional, out of control, less logical and less credible. We all saw the way that Hillary Clinton was portrayed when she displayed anger.  It's a tough gig to remain credible as a woman when you are known for being angry.

What the Research Says

Researchers from Arizona State University and the University of Illinois at Chicago looked at the differences in the way we perceive angry men or women and highlighted the double standard.

They found that "women's anger worked against them, while men's anger served as a "powerful" tool of persuasion. When the holdout was a male who expressed anger, participants significantly doubted their own opinion, even when they were in the majority. But if the holdout was a woman who expressed anger, she actually had less influence over participants -so much so that it was the only scenario in the study in which participants became more confident in their own opinion that opposed that of the woman."

The alternatives for women are pretty limited - grace and poise under pressure still come to mind.

Then that's it. Nada.

Going Postal

So what recourse did I have? How could I do something, express my outrage yet stay credible? 

So I created a (semi) viral LinkedIn Post. I call it "going postal". 

  • Going Postal - normally refers to out of control anger. Definitely a career limiting move (CLM) for leading women and men.
  • "going postal" (note lower case and yes this is my new definition) - creating a LinkedIn viral Post to drive awareness and change. 

Jane Anderson, Influencer and blogging expert, in a recent blog talks about staying above the line.  

  • Below the line = criticising, negative, using fear.  
  • Above the line =. drawing attention and proposing a positive solution
    So my definition of "going postal" also includes an element of positivity.

So what got my dander up? 

Read the blog below - then head over to LinkedIn and tag a financially savvy woman somewhere! 

The above the line action? After a week, I'll be emailing my flight buddy with a list of fabulously financially savvy women for him to refer to in his next column! 

Let's kick this stereotype to the curb (yet again).

Read on .... and be prepared to be flabbergasted  ...


I was shocked  by a sexist comment yesterday on a flight. “#Women simply can’t manage money as well as men”, he said. 

This wasn't just any sexist guy, it was  #Financial columnist for a well known publication 

“Women don’t care about money - they care more about people“ he went onto say.

WTF??? 🤯 

A total insult to most of the women in my circle of friends and colleagues if not all women everywhere! 

You’d think I was back in the 1950's   

I can't even excuse his age because my grandma (even older than he) was AWESOME at #financialmanagement. 

I nearly had an apoplexy! 

Bias and stereotypes are rampant in our business world. And with so few women visibly leading the financial space, it’s no wonder. 

It’s far easer to accept the old narrative and stereotyped norms as a version of the truth. Hang out with enough people who think the same as you, and you’ll end up with a bad case of confirmation bias to boot! 

Three financially savvy women I admire -

  • Sally Krawcheck, Ellevest 
  • Christine Lagarde, IMF - and closer to home 
  • Gail Kelly, 1st female CEO of a major Australian bank 

 >> COMMENT - Which women do you know who are AWESOME at finances and who care about #finance and #people?  TAG a financially savvy woman somewhere.

Let’s kick this stereotype to the curb (yet again).    

R.E.S.P.E.C.T. (vale Aretha)  


HAVE YOUR SAY - Don't forget to tag in the comments on LinkedIn (or send me the names) of fabulously financially savvy women. I'll be sending my new friend a list.

go postal!

#goingpostal #feminineambitionrocks #womenofimpact #linkedInlove

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3 Signs You’ll Struggle With A Career Change

1.  You always have excuses - It’s someone else’s fault, the timing isn’t right, there isn’t anything out there, I’ll never be good enough, I’ll never earn enough money.

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Enough said.

2.  You have kept your professional development to technical skills within the narrow band of your current expertise.

If you imagine that in 10 years you may be bored and want to do something different (highly likely as the norm is now about 5 - 7 career changes in the course of a career) you’ll also want to develop other things such as communication, negotiation, decision making, dealing with ambiguity & emotional intelligence.

3.  You have a low appetite for risk.  Yes, it can feel risky changing careers - at any age.

Is there a better age to change careers?  Not according to many. I’ve met people who have transitioned super successfully at any age - from 25 to 55.

There is a Chinese proverb “Those who say it can not be done, should not interrupt those doing it.”

Don’t let your age stop you from doing the things you really want to do.

CURIOUS?  I was interviewed by Gillian Wolski, Lifestyle Reporter from Ten Daily.  You can read more here

>> YOUR THOUGHTS? Is there ever a good time to change careers?

#career#careertransition  #ZeroExcuses

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How to win with your professional photo shoot

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We all know that people make split second judgments (4 seconds or less).  With CVs and recruitment moving more and more to online platforms like LinkedIn, your photo is one of the things that really matters.  It's a door opener, a trust and credibility builder, and has the potential to add 10s of 1000s of $$ onto your earnings over the course of your career. 

You never get a second chance to make a first impression

The flip side is also true. A bad photo keeps you missing out time and time again, for opportunities that you never even got to hear about. And never will.  

There's an old saying "dress for the job you want, not the job you have". The same goes for your professional headshot.  Your photo should position you for the role of your dreams, and not be something you were lucky to cut out from the previous year's Xmas party snaps. 

My US Celebrity Photoshoot

Four years ago I had my first professional photoshoot done. I was in the USA attending a speaker training week with Michael Port and he had brought a celebrity speaker photographer onsite for us to take advantage of.  It was an eye opening experience to say the least!  David (photographer) was hilarious with his "yeah baby, work it" comments bouncing off the walls as we posed and draped uncomfortably (we had been warned). But the results were phenomenal and we all felt a million bucks! In fact, I'm still using the shots he took then, and would do it again in a heartbeat if I got the chance.

I know many of my clients still feel uncomfortable with this idea. That it's somehow big-noting yourself at worst and unnecessary at best.   So to help feel more comfortable and to make the most of your next photoshoot, here are my nine tips for executive women and busy experts with big, hairy, audacious career goals.

I love the person I’ve become, because I fought to become her
— Kaci Diane

 

Nine Nifty Notes for Preparing for a Successful Photoshoot!


1. Think “successful leader” and “future personal brand” in your industry as you prepare - the role you want, not the role you have.  If you're aiming for a leadership role in a mining company, wear a suit, not the fluro. If you're aiming for a leadership role in education, dress yourself appropriately again. Ask yourself "What do the leaders in my industry typically wear on a good day?"  

2. Bring a change of jacket (or have a top which you could wear with a jacket or without) so you an get advice (and perspective) about what works best. This also means you can have two different looks in your allotted time slot. Head and shoulders is all that's required for LinkedIn.

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3. Don't be afraid of wearing colour - avoid all black and charcoal gray is definitely out for most women.  Note my own photo has a black jacket but I have a white top underneath for a bit of a highlight. If I had my shoot again (and I will) I'll definitely be adding some colour or highlights. 

4. Show your throat - don't wear a high neckline or collar. According to research this signifies trust. I guess the exception to the rule here would be if you were interviewing for a ski resort where the turtle neck is ubiquitous with style.

5. Aim for a V neckline shape - so if you are wearing a round/square top, pop a structured jacket over the top. The current shape of the LinkedIn photo window doesn't flatter the round neckline much, plus the stereotypes around leadership lend themselves to a more V shaped neckline.

6. Blend the feminine with the masculine - a structured masculine business shirt is also not recommended for most women pitching into leadership - blend the masculine with the feminine (structure & flow/yin & yang).

7. Accessorise with your role (and stereotypes) in mind - a little jewellery is perfect but nothing too dominating. The focus is on you, your leadership cred and building connection.

8. KISS - Steer clear of too much patterning or clutter. It can be distracting. It's you we want to get to know.

9. Makeup is highly recommended - and dress your hair before you go. Although, obviously you can use the facilities onsite if you need.  Don't forget to ask the photographer to photoshop your pick of the images. Blemishes, spots, flyaway hair etc can all be managed for a price. If the celebrities do it, why can't you? 
 

Bonus tip #10  -  Be a poser - Angle yourself so your shoulders are on a diagonal, you are looking back at the camera and smiling. Smiling is great, likability is important. Don't be a afraid to try a range of poses. The pose that felt the most awkward  and uncomfortable for me, was the one I ended up liking the best.  It's not stupid. It's not egotistical. Everyone is a different shape and we all have different goals, so different poses suit different people.

My personal favourite is the arm folded/crossed. It works for me and has worked for a few of my clients.   

Check out Helen and Kathryn in their before and after shots.  Phenomenal. (Well done to both!) 

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Here are a couple of great examples for your to check out on LinkedIn.  
 

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Are you leaving money on the table by not doing this one thing?

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Not following up …… is the same as filling up your bathtub without first putting the stopper in the drain.
— Michelle Moore

To follow up, or not? That is the question.

When you move into the realm of the Gold Standard of Executive Branded, you definitely follow up.

In fact, some might say that your future depends on your ability to follow up.

Not in a needy, desperate, scarcity mindset way.

But confidently, deliberately, proactively and professionally.

Q: When should you follow up? 
A: At almost any step of the process. See why below.

1. After you send off an application? If via email, yes, follow up. It's far more challenging with online systems so do your best. But definitely follow up, if you are applying via email, or via a recruiter. 

2. After interview? Yes, definitely follow up. You may be able to address any perceived gaps with what you find out i.e. you find out via a recruiter that the panel wondered if you had enough X,Y,Z experience, so you then counter that misperception by sending a one pager with a few tangible examples in a proactive, professional and helpful way.

You should also reiterate your enthusiasm for the role. Plus, make sure you say thank you. Gratitude and graciousness go a long way.

3. After the "thanks, but no thanks"? Yes, follow up. Ask for feedback on your performance because you are keen on improving your interview skills.

A couple of my clients are experts at using the follow up, and fast tracking or furthering their application at each phase of the process. 

  • Follow up at #1 got their application to the top of the pile. 
  • Follow up at #2 reminded the interviewer that they existed. 
  • Follow up at point #3 got them great insight as to future improvement areas in interview performance and refining their ideal role landing skills. It’s rare that people give feedback, but not unheard of. And it might just be the very thing you needed to hear.

One client found out that people were a bit put off by her spiral bound notebook. Small issue for sure. But people make snap judgements about you in a split second. And missing out on a role because of a notebook is so petty - yet easily fixed.

Finally, follow up at any of the stages could get you more information about a bigger, better or more suitable opportunity that you didn't even know about yet.

And to quote the fabulous Avril Henry

"Nobody cares as much about your career as you do. So do something about it!"

#career #followup #interview

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Perfectionism is a curse - especially when it comes to taking the stage

My first ever speaking gig absolutely bombed.

I was nervous

 Amanda Blesing - speaking at Melbourne networking event #WomenOfImpact

Amanda Blesing - speaking at Melbourne networking event #WomenOfImpact

My new business depended on me being good

Plus I had hugely unrealistic standards & expectations.

After all, I had booked and briefed more speakers than most people have had hot dinners!

I felt like I needed to be better than best.

Spring forward 4 years and I’m speaking like a champion - more confident, more relaxed - and with much better results.

Perfectionism is a curse.

While we imagine it drives better performance, it can have the opposite effect.

It gets in the way of us tackling stretch opportunities.

And the stress can undermine your performance anyway

So what happened?

I learned to take it easier on myself - have some compassion and respect for both myself and my audience

I also learned that we don’t have to feel like we’re proving ourselves all the time

Life’s a journey not a destination

And it takes time to create a diamond.

9 times out of 10, you’ll get a better result when you let go of perfect.

So next time you put yourself out there into a stretch situation

Remember ....

No more ABBA “take a chance on me”

And far more of Kylie “[you] should be so lucky”!!

 

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How to be a Kickass Female Speaker – advice for those considering taking the stage

Three Steps to be a Female KickAss Speaker 

  1. Be female
  2. Kick some ass
  3. Then get onstage and speak!

Last month I interviewed Warwick Merry CSP who is the former President of the Speakers Association.

I asked for his advice for women stepping up, speaking out and taking charge via the speaker circuit.

Well we're in luck. Warwick had lots to say and all of it positive!  Bring it on! 

 
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😰Even the #girlboss needs a little pampering every now and then!!!

😰Even the #girlboss needs a little pampering every now and then!!!

Just because you have a strong, independent blueprint or just because you are a leader, doesn't mean you don't need a little help and support or even pampering every now and then.

So maybe it's time 

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>> The comic is by Tatsuya Ishida from a strip called Sinfest. See the full original here

  • to lift your nose up off the grindstone
  • to look up for a moment & smell the roses
  • to not mistake the map for the territory
  • and ask for a little support or help along the way 🙏

And if you know someone, who is fiercely independent and normally great at stoically coping, it's okay to offer a helping hand. 

We're all in this together and we should be #thrivingnotjustsurviving

 

>> Ask yourself - If you're too busy making everyone else look and feel good, who looks after you? 

>> NEED HELP WITH THIS? 

    >> And do reach out if you're a smart 'n savvy executive woman looking for career support

     

    Tribute to the many strong, independent, entrepreneurial women in my network! 😍

    Tribute also to International Emoji Day 🙏 on July 18, 2018

    #leadership #womenofimpact #leadingwomen #personalbranding

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    Perfectionism - is it the main cause of Imposter Syndrome?

    Perfectionism is a curse isn’t it? A raison d'être for some, or creeping up on others when they least expect it!

    I believe we women create a rod of perfectionism for our own back, holding ourselves to exacting, unforgiving and unrealistic standards.

    We want to -

    • cook like Masterchef,
    • have a house that looks like Vogue Living
    • create a career that REALLY counts
    • and then, we wear ourselves out at the gym trying to “look good nekid”

    I’m exhausting just thinking about it!!

    In some of the wisdom traditions perfectionism is seen as a form of self harm or violence - not only against yourself, but against others as well.

    I know it leaves me depleted, with a severe case of imposter syndrome and then leaning out and not trying any more because I’ll “never be good enough”.

    What about you?

    And - is there another way?

    >> YOUR THOUGHTS -  Are you a recovering perfectionist? ? How do you deal with your perfectionist tendencies? Or are you one of the lucky few who missed out on that permutation?

    COMMENTS WELCOME VIA LINKEDIN

    #leadingwomen #womenofimpact #career #personalbranding

     

     
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    The #1 Worst Career Advice for Executive Women

    What’s the worst career advice you’ve ever received?

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    Maybe it was well meaning poor advice, rather than deliberately poor advice, yet poor advice none the less.

    My biggest bug bear is the advice frequently doled out without much thought  at women in leadership conferences.

    “To get ahead you just need to work hard.”

    Not only is this misguided, but it’s incredibly poor advice for those who have been socialised to lean towards the conscientious and the compliant.

    Of course there will be times when

    • we all need to work hard
    • effort is required
    • hard work is the currency of the day

    But there should be more times when strategic, smart and savvy would be better served.

    Work smarter, not harder! 

    In a modern, globalised, digitised world that’s complex, nuanced and ambiguous, working smarter will suit you far better.

    After all we’ve been working “hard” at gender diversity for years. It's time to work far smarter instead! 

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