Why asking for help is a super power, not a weakness

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Never apologise for asking for what you need. If you don’t ask - the answer will always be no.
— Rachel Wolchin

Why is it that asking for help is so hard? 
 
As someone with a fierce, independent blueprint, I frequently don’t know I need help, nor how to ask for it, until it’s almost too late
 
This leaves me overwhelmed, ready to throw in the towel or running on empty.
 
I'm not alone. Many strong, amazing, ambitious, executive women share with me they also feel this way. Examples include:

  • feeling as though we ought to muscle through the work life juggle all on our own

  • when we land a new role and bury ourselves, head down, backside up, as we attempt to prove our worth

  • when preparing to negotiate for an increase in salary

  • when we're stuck in a role that we've outgrown or with a boss we've bypassed and we don't know how to navigate through

  • when we're in over our head with professional and personal commitments because we don't know how to say no

  • or when we've simply run out of puff at the end of a big week and started to believe that we're simply not enough.

When we leave a problem too long it can escalate or turn into a crisis, which could have been averted far more easily.  

Or we miss out on what's potentially available because we couldn't see the wood for the trees.
 
And that’s a waste.
 
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, ignorance, laziness, that you aren't independent enough, or that you are lacking in some way.
 
It could simply mean you are smart and know how to leverage time and resources well.  
 
Research also tells us that we underestimate how willing others are to help out by a whopping 50%

“There's basically nothing human beings do that's more rewarding and gives them a bigger boost of self-esteem than being helpful” says researcher Heidi Grant

Being strong independent women who are proud to celebrate #IWD2019 doesn’t mean we have to go it all alone.  In fact, when we all work on this together, we’ll get a better outcome anyway. 
 
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness - it’s a sign of strength
 
Learning to ask for help in the right way, might just become your new super power
 
YOUR THOUGHTS? Why do we hate to ask for help? Or is this your super power? Drop me a note and let me know ablesing@amandablesing.com 
 

And happy International Women's Day on Friday.  

#IWD2019 
#BalanceforBetter

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Self Promotion Blunders Executive Women Definitely Want to Avoid - national tour

Self Promotion Blunders we all Want to Avoid

If a girl pulls an all-nighter and there’s no one there to see it, does she get promoted?
— Helen Coster

I've made every self promotion blunder in the book and then some. In particular, back in the early 2000s when I'd come back from a stint as an expat and felt I had to make up for lost ground. No-one knew me or remembered the great work I had previously done and I needed to catch up, so I tooted my own hornblew my own trumpet and hustled with the best ..... and the worst of them. 

Then there are other times too, when I suspect that we convince ourselves we don't need to self promote at all, because if we miss out on an opportunity it simply wasn't meant to be.

I get it. It's tough for everyone - and especially tough for executive women.   

COMING OF AGE

Yet it's an absolute career game changer when done right and can make you wonder why they don't teach this in uni.

I had one senior level client just last week tell me she finally feels as though she has made it!   What's changed for her? She is self promoting skilfully, subtly and powerfully inside her current organisation. She feels as though she has come of age career-wise and will never look back.  

This is empowering stuff and I'd love for you to feel this way too. And you can.

So I'm running a series of events to talk about self promotion blunders we all make - from not doing any, through to going OTT. Then we'll talk about what you can do about it and you'll definitely come away with a plan to move forward with.


WHO SHOULD ATTEND?

If you're in the mid level of your career and you are feeling:

  • As though you've managed to get yourself pigeon holed

  • Frustrated and invisible as decision makers overlook you despite stellar work

  • Horrified as others take credit for your work or ideas 

  • Like you're about to be caught out if you don't do something different soon

  • Or maybe you're simply curious about working with me so want to see me in action.

If that's you, why not join me for an intro session? 

We'll examine the 7 self promotion blunders we all want to avoid - and what you can do about it.


Then let's get this self promotion party started! 

Places are limited to ensure everyone feels seen, heard and valued.  

Early registration recommended - check out the events page and book today.

#executiveimpact #LookOutCSuiteHereSheComes #womenofimpact

 

 
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Efficient vs effective, are we getting the wrong end of the bread knife?

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Working on the right thing is probably more important than working hard
— Caterina Fake

Efficient vs effective

Legend has it that a great Aunty on my father's side of the family (think German heritage, farming woman, salt of the earth) used to slice the bread across her stomach with the knife facing inward.

I know. Go figure!! 

This particular story was used as a cautionary tale to teach us kids to be careful around knives. 

It worked.

We were also told she used to prepare and eat breakfast the night before, so she didn’t have to wash up in the morning. 

#FakeNews maybe, but a cautionary tale none-the-less. 

She was infamous in our family because she was so very efficient, when effective might have been far better.  A different approach might have delivered a better result. Breakfast in the morning would have been one good outcome for sure!

But do many of us muddle efficient with effective? Maybe not to the same extreme as my Aunty, but is this a default setting for you?

The new KPMG Women in Leadership report was released in January 2019 - Women at Work: Playing to Win? Or Not to Lose? 

  • 73% of women still rely on "working harder" as the main strategy to get ahead

  • 45% think they need to be more detailed oriented

  • 45% think they need to rely on being highly organised

“This tendency – to focus on behaviours that are task-oriented over those that are self-assertive – is a pattern that repeats itself throughout the survey findings.”  
“When it comes to their careers, many women find themselves in a bit of a bind. They’re trying to preserve their gains, so instead of playing to win, they’re often playing not to lose – whether hesitating to take perceived big risks, or feeling the need to take outsized chances” says Michele Meyer-Shipp, KPMG's Chief Diversity Officer.

In a nutshell, by focusing on doing things well, rigorously, thoroughly, properly and appropriately, we are playing not to lose, rather than playing to win.

#executivewomen #womenofimpact #lookoutCsuitehereshecomes 

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How comfortable are you taking a position?

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When you stand for nothing, you fall for everything.

When it comes to self promotion, it's much easier when you have a platform to stand on.

No, I don't mean your soapbox, or your high horse. I'm talking about a cause, a purpose or a mission.

Research tells us that, for women in particular, when we self promote around a cause, a purpose or a mission, we more easily depress the impact of the modesty norm which normally makes us feel self conscious. 

Additionally others are far more forgiving of us if we get it slightly wrong or if the activity is perceived to be not as per the feminine stereotype. This means we more effectively circumnavigate negative judgments and social penalties or even the backlash effect.

A definite win win!

In a nutshell, we're more likely to get out of our own way and flagrantly self promote when it's for a cause, a purpose or a mission. 

Your UVP
Another way to self promote is around your unique value proposition - and that means you need to be able to take a position. You need to back yourself and your own ideas and claim that unique space between your experience, your expertise and those things you are most passionate about.

So my question to you is - how comfortable are you in taking a position?  

Most of us cringe remembering the uncomfortable conversation at a dinner party once where someone dominated the conversation with their dogmatic "position".  

Let's not even go there. Simply remember the Buddhist principle of care deeply, hold lightly and you'll be fine.

Although, at the other end of the spectrum there is the person who is almost like wallpaper, fading into the background, and people wonder why they are in the room.  

As a leader, or aspiring leader, being able to stake a claim in the sand and to take a position, is part and parcel of your journey because it will help set the vision and bring others along on the journey. 

How can I work out my position?
Here are my four go to questions that help you work out what your position is on any issue

  • What do you stand for?

  • Why is this important? 

  • How does this add value? 

  • What's in it for the intended listener/audience?

In fact, you could even create a presentation or a LinkedIn post around those four bullet points alone, and it would go a long way to helping others remember you! 

Once you are comfortable articulating all four, self promotion becomes a breeze.

Is it even worth it? Surely there are no new ideas left
Yes it is worth it. Remember it's not what you know or even who you know, but it's who knows what you know.  You cannot sell a secret so you do have to share your ideas with others.

Sometimes a new voice can bring a fresh perspective and helps to solve old problems in new ways.  Diversity works, because of diversity - of ideas, of thinking, of approaches, so don't even begin to think your position doesn't have any value.  

Digging deep into your sense of why will help you do this. Why do you turn up to work every day? Why do you work in this industry? Why do you do good work? Why is this work important? Why is this perspective important?  

Asking yourself why is nearly always a game changer.

Letting go of the need to be right
Another key element of position taking, is the practice of defencelessness. When you let go of the need to be right, or even letting go of the need to know everything, expressing your opinion is far easier.  

Jane Caro, media commentator, comedian and speaker taught me this as I was about to head on stage one day and debate against some extremely clever PhDs and journalists on the topic of gender salary. The best bit? Her advice was fabulous. My team won the day ... by being funny, not necessarily by being right. 

Quick and Easy Wins
Some quick and easy tactics for you to try once you've worked out what you stand for ...

  • Take a stand and express your opinion in meeting where you normally let others do all the talking

  • Craft a compelling argument in an online forum

  • Providing smart and persuasive commentary at an event or ask a smart question from the back of the room

  • Comment "on brand" on LinkedIn on other people's posts

  • Publish or share "on brand" on LinkedIn 

  • And does your leadership team and/or Board, not just know about you, but know what you represent and how that adds value to the organisation?  If not, go create an opportunity for decision makers to see that you have value to add. 

When the rubber hits the road
Now that you've worked out what you stand for and have a roadmap for helping yourself to stand out for all the right reasons, go and put an appointment with yourself in your calendar to make sure it starts happening today.  Practice makes perfect and you have to start somewhere. 

Then remember Avril Henry's rallying cry ....
"No-one cares as much about your career as you do. So do something about it"

YOUR THOUGHTS?  When do you find self promotion easiest?  What challenges you the most about self promotion?  What have you wished you could be given the opportunity for but no-one else knows and you haven't told them about it either? What can you do differently?
Drop me a note and let me know how you're going - ablesing@amandablesing

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Are your perfectionist tendencies keeping you stuck between a rock and a hard place?

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Confessions of a recovering perfectionist

Balance is something I’ve fought for all my life.

I use the term “fight for” deliberately, because I haven’t found it easy and my other extreme is putting my head in the sand.

As a recovering perfectionist, sometimes I feel that if I can’t do something properly, I shouldn’t bother at all.

It’s either perfect, or it’s the worst thing ever made and everyone is an artistic failure, including myself. (Yay, emotional extremes!)
— Felicia Day

Yet this is a furphy. After all, 3 x 10 min walks around the block is better than nothing, and recent research tells us that it’s even better than 1 x 30 min walk around the block on some markers!

Throughout my career I’ve felt I’ve needed to choose between

  • Doing everything or doing nothing

  • Going at it like a bull at a gate or not even trying

  • Effort or ease

  • The Masculine or The Feminine

  • Feast or famine

  • Flat out like a lizard drinking or lazing around on the couch ... drinking! 🤣

  • Always on or always off and

  • Never giving up and always letting go.

My perfectionist tendencies have kept me constantly choosing between a rock and a hard place, and feeling guilty when things didn’t work out.

Balance will only come when I make peace with this part of myself and with that comes real impact.

CONFESSION TIME - Does this sound like you? How do you find the balance between on and off? Do you have any advice for others? Or do you need help with this?  Drop me a note and let me know - ablesing@amandablesing.com - or share to inspire another woman somewhere.

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Are you a legend in your own lunchtime? And if not, why not?

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You have to believe in yourself when no one else does.
— Serena Williams

Is being a legend in your own lunchtime a good or bad thing?

Here in Australia, the expression legend in your own lunchtime is alive and well. For those of us who indulged in school yard trash talk back in the 70's or 80's, you may remember it as legend in your own lunch box. Either, either. They both mean the same thing. The expression is not exactly positive. It's a bit like saying you've got tickets on yourself and that you're too big for your own boots - in fact, a braggart or boastful.

But maybe we got it totally wrong.

Maybe to succeed in corporate or business Australia, we actually do need tickets on ourselves. Quite possibly we need to be a legend in our own lunchtime - because if you don't think you're any good, no-one else will either. 

We know from various studies that executive women struggle with the following

  • Self advocacy 

  • Self promotion 

  • Owning and claiming their expertise

We also know that executive women tend to

  • Downplay their own achievements

  • Underestimate themselves, and 

  • Second guess themselves and hesitate in taking risks with their career.  

Which ultimately leads to other people thinking we're only as good as we're saying we are, which isn't necessarily very good anyway.

For those with leadership aspirations but who are naturally modest or humble, learning to become a legend in your own lunchtime, may just be a prerequisite.

In this era of #selfpromotion, you are your own marketing department, and that requires a healthy dose of positive self belief.

Self belief >> Self confidence >> Self advocacy >> Self promotion >> Legend in your own lunchtime

  • You don’t fly around the globe solo Amelia Earhart style if you don’t believe in yourself

  • You can’t become the most powerful female tennis player of all time, a la Serena Williams, if you don’t have healthy self confidence

  • You wouldn’t become the 1st woman PM in Australia, facing all the trolls, criticism and constant media scrutiny like our own Julia Gillard, if didn’t have positive self belief

And you cannot lead a company if you aren’t prepared to self advocate, self promote and to own, claim and share your expertise. 

In a world that confuses confidence with competence, you’re going to have to fake it til you become it anyway. 

Being a legend in your own lunchtime is simply a prerequisite. 

YOUR THOUGHTS? Have you found positive self belief to be helpful or a hindrance?  Drop me a note and let me know. 

Vive la révolution! #ambitionrevolution #LookOutCSuiteHereSheComes #feminineambitionrocks  #executivewomen #careerfutureproofing

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Do women criticise each other more?

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Do women criticise each other?

I've hesitated to publish this blog because I don't want to contribute to the myths, misinformation and misogyny that already exists for women with leadership aspirations.

  • "She's a nag" - nope, she's the Chief Risk Officer

  • "She's a gold digger" - well she works in a gold mine, so yes, but not for the reasons you're inferring

  • "She's a ball-breaker " - yet there is no equivalent term for a tough guy 

Rightly or wrongly, women also have a reputation for criticising or penalising other women - being catty, bitchy, or overtly negative towards their female peers or subordinates. 

But is this true?  Is this perception encouraged simply as an exclusionary tactic, a diversionary blame game, or a way of keeping (other) women in their place?

So I've decided to air the topic, rather than hide from it - to help you make up our own mind about how to react, behave or respond when you hear that women criticise other women, you find yourself in a situation where you are critiquing others for things other than objective performance measures  or perhaps when you are feeling threatened by a more ambitious junior staffer who appears to be challenging you.

Queen Bee Syndrome
Historically, and unfortunately still far too commonly, the traits valued in the rarified air of the C-suite were assertiveness, combativeness and competitiveness. The women who get to the top are rewarded for those more masculine traits.

There was even a name given to the more extreme elements, the Queen Bee Syndrome,whereby some women made their way to the top, then deliberately held other women back.

The phrase was repurposed by a Dutch psychologist, Naomi Ellemers, who examined the lack of senior level women in academia. She had assumed that it was men keeping women out of senior roles.  What she discovered was the few women in senior roles were equally, if not more, exclusionary.  Scarcity of opportunities drove even more competitive and assertive behaviours.

The phrase took, and has possibly become an overused label when dealing with resistance towards our career from women in power. 

I suspect too that we've all had a female boss at some time in our career who we remember as being tough as nails, harder on women than men, and certainly not one to be "throwing back the net" let alone "throwing down the ladder" for other talented women in the organisation.

But was her behaviour more memorable because -

  • She was a female boss and still relatively unique? 

  • Had she become more tough on other women because she didn't want to be seen as favouring other women?

  • She was simply unaware of the impact her behaviours and tactics had on her female staff because no-one had called her out on it?

  • Another option might be that our memorable female boss who didn't favour other women in upper echelons of her work environment, was in survival mode, in a highly competitive, combative and assertive world where everyone was waiting for her to fail?

  • Or a combination of all four?


Add into the mix the stereotype for women to be inclusive, collaborative and supportive - so we hold our female boss to a higher standard than we might do her male peers - and you have a recipe for pejorative name calling even if there are elements of truth in it.  The stereotype effectis a strong driver.

As Madeleine Albright famously said
"There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women."

We get it. I'm not excusing bullying tactics by any means. But sometimes people are caught in a cycle of stereotypes, expectations, limiting beliefs and fear that keeps them stuck behaving in ways that are distinctly unhelpful to not only other women, but themselves as well.

Studies have indicated that when professional women believe there’s only room at the top for a few, they will bully and undermine their female colleagues and employees. 

Additionally, according to a 2016 study in The Academy of Management Journal, senior-level women who champion younger women are more likely to get negative performance reviews.

Definitely a case of damned when you do, and another damned when you don't.

No-one said it would be easy to get to the top, and once again, no-one was right.

Socialisation 
The socialisation of women and girls is also frequently focused on outward appearance.  I grew up being indoctrinated by Dolly magazine, didn't you? And it's worse for young girls today. This can lead to comparing, judging, and critiquing, often from a perspective of not measuring up.  The dark-side of this is that in tearing others down, we feel we build ourselves up in some way. Yet the reverse is more likely to be true.

The end result is that women who become more visible, find themselves more vulnerable, not just from attacks by men, but also other women. 

Critiquing starts small 
Recently, I participated on a magical, mystery, bus tour with around 20 other entrepreneurs. It was a heap of fun on a hot summers day and we were all being deliberately pushed way out of our comfort zone with new people and new experiences.  

Most of my fellow passengers were smart, entrepreneurial women, possibly even a more competitive by the very nature of their work.  

On this tour I experience that "aha" moment.  It was the end of a long, adventurous day and I heard from the seat behind me, two of the women beginning to critique other women on the sidewalk for their appearance.  

And let me reiterate, we were all tired so less aware or mindful of our behaviours.

I blew a mental gasket, then called out the behaviour.

Eleanor Roosevelt may have said “You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realised how seldom they do.”  But perhaps she hadn’t hung out in a bus with a group of other women trying to stand out or compete with each other!!

Unfortunately this criticising others appearance is not unusual and no-one sees it as a problem. For women in public life, the constant critiquing of their appearance, mannerisms and other personal attributes is a way of life, and this is from supporters, not necessarily Trolls. 

It’s a socially acceptable habit we all indulge in. A hobby.  And I wonder what it will take for us to stop.


Why is this a problem? 

  • It’s a temporary distraction -  if women are busy criticising each other for seemingly trivial things, we aren’t focused on where the action is really at

  • It might temporarily make you feel good about yourself - but long term, it damages your own confidence as you wonder if others will be critiquing you when you take a stand or stand out for any reason.

  • It causes unnecessary friction and slows things down - if you're serious about your career and taking it to the next level, or you have an agenda you'd like to drive in your organisation, but you're then sidetracked by worries about what other people will think of you, you'll definitely take longer to launch.

  • It can trigger shame - women on the end of unnecessary criticism of a personal nature often feel embarrassment, guilt or shame

Guilt is just as powerful, but its influence is positive, while shame’s is destructive. Shame erodes our courage and fuels disengagement.Brene Brown
— Brene Brown

It takes courage to remain ambitious and even more courage to lead.

When we criticise others or hold others back, we are damaging ourselves and ultimately undermining our own efforts to stand out from the crowd and be noticed.

Let’s stop with the criticising and competitiveness with other women already, and simply get on with the business of creating work environments that support and champion the endeavours, perspectives and unique talents of both men and women as well.

YOUR THOUGHTS?  Fact or fiction? How do you deal with feelings of scarcity and high competition on your way to the top job?  Have you found women to be more or less supportive the higher up the food chain you go?  And what strategies to you have that help you cope?
Drop me a note ablesing@amandablesing.com 

My mission is to help women to play a much bigger game – change the world if you will – and do so with big ideas, big vision and big, audacious bucket loads of confidence.

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Self Promotion Sucks – but it doesn’t have to

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Self promotion sucks – especially for executive women

We’ve been socialised

No one becomes an industry leader overnight. Start with one self-promotion strategy at a time. You’ll be surprised at how things blossom from the smallest effort in the right direction.
— Michaela Chung
  • not to big note ourselves, yet owning and sharing your expertise is a key to a successful career

  • that if we do stand out, it’s should be for looking good, gracious or glamorous and never raise a sweat, yet the key to kicking BHAGs is to put yourself out there.

The social penalty for women who self promote and get it wrong, can be debilitating.

We’re all attuned to it because we’ve been hearing criticisms and advice about standing out or fitting in for most of our lives.

I run my own business

I have to self promote daily in order to stay successful.

I struggle as much as the next person, especially when I’m tired or feeling vulnerable.

And the biggest lesson I’ve learned in this journey?

Take the self out of self promotion

Instead focus on your why, a sense of purpose or a cause.

Not only will you find it far easier, but you won’t be criticised as much either.

And for the thousands who put themselves out there every day in the face of possible criticism or rejection?

I respect you.

We’re setting the scene for generations who come after to tackle things differently.

#selfpromotionmatters #leadership #executivebranding

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Who is your mentor for 2019?

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Guess what I'm doing this holiday period?

Having a holiday! YAY

The other thing I'm doing is finishing book number 2.

Book 2 is all about the challenges that executive women experience with self promotion - and (super importantly) what they can do about it.

It's been a long time in the writing. My editor wanted to get it finished before Xmas. Great in theory, but ..... it simply didn't eventuate. 

So I'm using the quieter weeks in December and January to tick this off of my to do list.

There is a saying "fortune favours the well prepared".

So I'm highly prepared
✔️ Notes 
✔️ Reference material
✔️ 15K word draft already written
✔️ Editor & publisher on standby
✔️ Chapter outlines
✔️ Willpower 

But I know that willpower simply won't be enough.  It's the end of the year and I'm tired. My willpower is flagging. I'll need something else.

DESIGN BEATS DISCIPLINE
Science tells us that willpower is a diminishing resource and despite best intentions, even with the best will in the world, unless you place great structures around your big goals and ambitions, willpower alone won't be enough.

Just like a muscle, it can get worn out when over used.

Especially when it comes to self promotion - if you are tired and worn out at the end of the year, the last thing you might feel like is selling brand you.

Dan Gregory, speaker, commentator and acknowledged wit, says "design beats discipline." 

He goes on to explain that despite great intent and strong willpower people still struggle to do what they know they should.

For example, we know a lot about the link between exercise and being healthier and happier, yet many of us resist exercising.  

Design beats discipline - so be sure to design out temptation, distraction or failure points - 

  • you wouldn't keep Tim Tams in the cupboard if you were going on a diet

  • you don't order a delivery of Wine Selectors when you are doing Dry January 

  • and you don't stay in a noisy holiday home with lots of distractions and competing family obligations, and no daily word targets, KPIs or accountability measures, when you want to finish writing your book! 

SUCCESS IS NO ACCIDENT 
Why is it that we still believe that success is accidental? That we were lucky in some way, or that there were universal forces at play? Yet worse, when we miss a goal or deadline that we start believing that it's our fault, we're not good enough and asking "who am I to aim so high"?

Stop beating yourself up, feeling bad or giving up. Maybe it was that you were relying on willpower alone when you needed something different.

Instead, make your success your only viable option, by designing accountability, rigour and structures around your big goals and dreams to make them more easily achievable. 

With that in mind - what structures, designs and accountability can you put in place to help you succeed more easily in 2019?

________

CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH ME IN 2019? 

The number one thing that nearly all of my clients have in common is that they have had an "aha" moment. 

They woke up one day and realised that they had spent most of their career making everyone else look good.  

But had forgotten to prioritise themselves.

If that's you, and you're wondering about how to do that in 2019, why not find out how I can help?

My January calendar is already filling up - click on the link for a sneak peek. 

FROM INVISIBLE TO INVINCIBLE IN 2019 

And maybe the gift you give yourself this Xmas, is a structured program that gives you a new burst of energy and impact for 2019!

Vive la révolution! #ambitionrevolution #LookOutCSuiteHereSheComes #feminineambitionrocks #success #career #executivebranding

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Feel like your leadership journey has stalled? Email ablesing@amandablesing.com to set up a 30 min one on one to learn more. Helping clients shift from feeling invisible to becoming invincible in just 12 months

Is it possible to lead and be “nice” at the same time? More on Nice Girl leadership

Is it possible to lead and be “nice” at the same time?

Dr. Lois Frankel wrote a book on this topic back in the early 2000's, but did we all get the wrong end of the stick by simply focusing on the book title? "Nice Girls Can't Get the Corner Office"

Reflections on “nice girl” leadership for those struggling to carve to a leadership brand that’s congruent and authentic - not just brash, bolshy and competitive because you’ve been told you need to be that way. 

After all organisations don't need more of the same style. Diversity works because of diversity - of thought, ideas, styles and perspectives.

No more "big hair, big shoulder pads, go hard or go home".  

Have the confidence to lead leading authentically.

#LeadLikeaLeadingWoman

#WomenOfImpact

#LeadingWomen

#NiceGirlLeadership

Vive la révolution! #ambitionrevolution #LookOutCSuiteHereSheComes #leadership  #executivewomen #careerfutureproofing

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Feel like your leadership journey has stalled? Email ablesing@amandablesing.com to set up a 30 min one on one to learn more. Helping clients shift from feeling invisible to becoming invincible in just 12 months

What can you do in just 2 minutes that will help you be more successful?

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Time to work far smarter?

You bet. 

You've heard of

  • 20 Min Tabata Protocols - designed to help Japanese Olympic speed skaters increase their fitness in very short period of time

  • 7 Min Workout - as popularised by the New York Times. Same principle as above. Intensity, short duration and frequency = more likely to do it.

  • 4 Hour Work Week, Body & Chef - thanks Tim Ferriss for helping us focus on the Minimum Effective Dose - not too little, not too much, but just right.

  • Pomodoro Technique - focus for shorter periods of time, so you can stay focused for longer. An oxymoron if I ever heard one! But it works. 


And now I give you Bo Forbes (neuroscientist, psychologist and yoga teacher) and her Tiny, Two Minute Tools - two minute specific activities you can (and are more likely to) do, more frequently (because they're super easy) to shift the dial on your health and wellbeing. 

Her research initially proved that a daily 20 minute yoga practice delivered far more benefit than 90 minute classes twice per week.

It went on to demonstrate that, despite their diminutive title, Tiny, Two Minute Tools punch above their weight on both health, hormones and happiness. 

But Amanda!  You don't write a fitness blog. Why are you sharing this?

Because the way that you do anything is the way you do everything.

Because the plan that you do, is better than the perfect plan that sits in the cupboard and never sees the light of day.

Because I feel for every executive woman who is trying to have it allbe it all, and create a career that really counts but who gets to the end of the year and is exhausted and wonders if it's worthwhile.

Because we all do it!  We work hard at something until we don't (or can't) because it's no longer working. 

Because I was disappointed to read this startling statistic from former Australian Prime Minister The Hon. Julia Gillard in a speech she gave at University of Adelaide in September 2018.

"The number of women in senior management globally has risen just 1% point in 10 years” 


Just 1%. 

We've been working hard at gender equity for years. It's time for both men and women to work far smarter. 

As Albert Einstein is widely quoted as saying 
“Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results.

Because the Tiny, Two Minute Tool is a metaphor for paradigm shift, and instead of trying to fix all companies everywhere so we get overwhelmed and don't bother, let's start in our own backyard with things that don't seem threatening and are easy to put in place and do more frequently.

Let's find an equivalent of the Tiny, Two Minute Tool and implement it in our own careers in 2019.

Perhaps 2019 is the year of being far smarter about how we tackle gender equity and feminine empowerment collectively and our own careers individually. 

So what will you do differently moving forward?

Drop me an email if you have a big idea, that might benefit from baby steps. I'd love to hear.

Vive la révolution! #ambitionrevolutionrocks #LookOutCSuiteHereSheComes #feminineambition 

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Feel like your leadership journey has stalled? Email ablesing@amandablesing.com to set up a 30 min one on one to learn more. Helping clients shift from feeling invisible to becoming invincible in just 12 months

What does Peppa the Pig have to do with a Legal Awards ceremony?

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Heaps if you are one of the #winning #women doing the #juggle as they deliver excellence in Australian legal services! 

Celebrating and recognising excellence and achievement from women in any industry is a powerful driver towards gender equity.

Absolutely chuffed to support @Gabrielle Guthrie as she was named #Finalist in the Sole Practitioner Category at the Women In Law Awards hosted by Lawyers Weekly at the Sofitel last night. So proud of her results and achievements in just two years of establishing her own practice providing accessible, specialist environment and planning law advice. Phenomenal woman. Phenomenal lawyer. Phenomenal result

The 21 acceptance speeches represented all the richness, value and #diversity that working women provide to society with many reflecting that despite the juggle they were still able to deliver substantive change or results for clients. 

One of the winners shared a vulnerable moment that her Award nomination video accidentally included the Peppa the Pig soundtrack as she juggled childcare duties, work responsibilities and a looming Award nomination deadline. Despite this (or maybe because of this!!!), she won her category (you can’t keep amazing talent down) but it was a great story that highlights the juggle that many women deal with to stay ahead of the curve. The audience loved it.

Kudos to all the 180 finalists in the room and to the 20 women who were named as #winners. 

Keep inspiring others.

Special shout out to the other finalists at my table including Lesley Symons and Harmers Workplace Lawyers

#winningwomen #womenofimpact #leadingwomeninspirechange

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Feel like your leadership journey has stalled? Email ablesing@amandablesing.com to set up a 30 min one on one to learn more. Helping clients shift from feeling invisible to becoming invincible in just 12 months