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Have you hit the “glass ceiling” so many times, it feels as if the top of your head is flat? Has your journey through the executive ranks seem to have stalled out? Are your dedication and hard work going unrewarded? Are you feeling underappreciated or misunderstood in the workplace? If so…welcome to The Club!

“This is THE place, where like-minded, executive-minded, forward-thinking women come to communicate—collaborate—and celebrate everything that it means to be a career-focused woman in a male-dominated work environment. This isn’t about ‘us vs. them.’ This is about us making a name for ourselves—taking a seat, and truly owning that seat, at the executive table—and doing so not as ‘clones’ of men, but as authentic, self-confident, self-empowered women.”

Amanda Blesing

2 x Author; Women’s C-Suite Mentor & Executive Coach; Founder: The She-Suite™ Club

Where empowered women empower other women. Because when women win, everyone wins.

The Myth of Working Hard and How it Keeps You Playing Small

Much of my day is spent talking with women about how worn out they get;

  • How they are tired of hitting their head up against road blocks, brick walls and glass ceilings,

  • How they are exhausted from striving for greatness and high achievement,

  • How they are worn out trying to have it all – you know, “perfect house, perfect family, cook like a master chef and constant messages to look good naked“.

I’m exhausted just thinking about it!

I guess we need to accept a little of the blame though because we’re frequently recovering perfectionists who try and do everything really, really well. That small voice that comes from somewhere near your shoulder that squeaks messages of guilt, fear and shame about not measuring up unless you simply work a little harder.  It takes one to know one. That voice is/was a constant refrain for me for many years. I blame my protestant work ethic but truly, from what I’ve seen, that voice is non-denominational.

But maybe, just maybe, we’ve got it all wrong. Maybe there is another way.

Perhaps our society’s reliance on and addiction to working hard, actually compounds inefficiency, makes us miss out on opportunities for improvement, or simply hides real problems.

It’s a bit like doing more and more cardio at the gym to help you lose weight.  Yes, for some people it works. But we now know that there are a range of other (sometimes more) effective strategies to lose weight that also provide significant health benefits, that don’t cause as much inflammation and critically, don’t leave us feeling worn out.

“If you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”

I’m even a little sick of very senior and seemingly successful men and women at industry conferences and events telling young professionals and women’s audiences, to work harder and that hard work is all it takes.   Perhaps this is because they had to work hard as young people and it appears to be human nature to want others to walk in our own footsteps, do the hard yards just like we did in order to achieve a measure of success.

So today I’m taking a stand. I know it’s controversial, but I’m calling bullish*t on this.

Working harder simply wears you out. Working harder is probably a key contributor in women leaning out. Remember how women tend to lose ambition after just two years?  Remember too how we report to feeling more stressed than men?

From a purely business sense, working harder disguises inefficiency, stifles innovation and it gets in the way of you getting ahead.   No-one promotes the stressed out, flustered and exhausted person doing all the hard work up the back of the office with their head down to avoid trouble.  And somehow many of the men in our lives know this innately.

So what can you do instead?

  • Work smarter, not harder,

  • Ask why; what is it that we’re trying to achieve and is there not another way?

  • Stop being busy, start being strategic,

  • Leverage your expertise, not your time,

  • Learn to use the language of value,

  • Switch off to anyone (other than maybe your PT) who exhorts you to work harder,

  • Create your own game plan that nourishes you and sees you flourish.

After all, business and society in general doesn’t need more people working hard. We need more people making a bigger difference. And you might just start seeing that you achieve far greater success than you thought possible – than when you simply worked hard.

Vive la révolution!


In fact, these tactics are part and parcel of getting ahead and are some of the corner stones of The Ambition Revolution Schemer Mode.  In case you aren’t sure what Schemer Mode is an extract from my latest white paper entitled Feminine Ambition – How to Tackle It, Tame it and See if Flourish – which in itself is an extract from my up coming book – Step Up, Speak Out, Take Charge – a woman’s guide to getting ahead in your career.

“My mission in life is to help women to play a much bigger game – change the world if you will – and do so with big ideas, big vision and big, audacious bucket loads of confidence.”

— Amanda Blesing

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Amanda helped me build my digital brand with a strategic approach that’s aligned to my long-term career goals. I learned to add value and richness to my network and customers, and I have a visibility strategy that is above the line and future-focused!

It’s a blast working with Amanda – I can feel the momentum growing – now a matter of me putting my foot on the pedal to get myself out there in full confidence!


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