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Have you hit the “glass ceiling” so many times, it feels as if the top of your head is flat? Has your journey through the executive ranks seem to have stalled out? Are your dedication and hard work going unrewarded? Are you feeling underappreciated or misunderstood in the workplace? If so…welcome to The Club!

“This is THE place, where like-minded, executive-minded, forward-thinking women come to communicate—collaborate—and celebrate everything that it means to be a career-focused woman in a male-dominated work environment. This isn’t about ‘us vs. them.’ This is about us making a name for ourselves—taking a seat, and truly owning that seat, at the executive table—and doing so not as ‘clones’ of men, but as authentic, self-confident, self-empowered women.”

Amanda Blesing

2 x Author; Women’s C-Suite Mentor & Executive Coach; Founder: The She-Suite™ Club

Where empowered women empower other women. Because when women win, everyone wins.

How to be yourself and grow in confidence without damaging your brand

Last month I shared a story about a former career path that wasn’t really ‘on brand’ with my leadership goals. I’d been so concerned that it might undermine my ambitions that I’d buried it and to some extent forgotten about it – despite there being some benefit in others knowing about it. I simply didn’t feel it made me look credible as a leader. And quite possibly there was a time in my career that I would have been right. And here’s why.

Four reasons I hear from executive women about not sharing their more “authentic” brand are:

  • My male colleagues think my interests are frivolous/different enough, so I don’t talk about them if I want to be taken seriously.
  • I’m already fighting an uphill battle and am worried if I share too much it might be the thing that truly undermines me.
  • I tried it once, letting people get to know the ‘real’ me, and it backfired and because it was the real me I felt totally rejected.
  • My industry hires for ‘gravitas’ (like a news reader). I’m naturally bubbly, the antithesis of gravitas according to some, so I dare not bring my more authentic self out at work.
Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself by Coco Chanel - Amanda Blesing Executive Coach Melb.jpg

What I’m hearing when I read between the lines is that these women are trying to negate the impact of the stereotype effect – where we perform to a stereotype. Great if the stereotype is positive and you are in fact good at those things i.e.the stereotype that women are more nurturing is great if you are really nurturing. However, it’s not so helpful if you’re not good at nurturing and your role requires it, but I trust that you can learn how.

Also not so good where a stereotype is negative and people when reminded of your ‘femininity’ then expect you to under perform. A classic example is that most people assume that a man is the best person to lead in high stakes situation and that it would be risky putting a woman in charge when times are tough. Which we all now know is rubbish, with ample evidence from amazing female leadership throughout 2020 leading exceptionally well throughout a year of crisis, this has to be disputed – but the stereotype still holds.

However, when it’s your career at stake, you aren’t necessarily in the business of fighting the good fight for all women everywhere, you’re more likely adept at not bringing your whole self to work unless the culture is really inclusive.

So here are six ideas to help you bring your more authentic leadership brand to the table without the sting in the tail:

  1. Define your destination – what is it you are aiming for (brand and career)
  2. Understand the pros and cons of your current brand and risks of being more authentic
  3. Work out what you need to change about your brand on your pathway to the top
  4. Create allies – help others to help you
  5. Craft your narrative – be sure to consider context and relevance as you introduce your more authentic brand
  6. And finally, remember, the ‘gold standard’ of executive branded – proactive, intentional, future focused and strategic. It’s not disingenuous, it’s critical.


When you and your brand are more congruent, you’ll feel more confident – and in a world where confidence is frequently mistaken for competence this will definitely work to your advantage.

However, when women everywhere feel empowered to be themselves at work, that’s when true change will happen. We don’t need more women leading like men or organisations will keep getting nowhere with their gender equity efforts and miss out on opportunities to capitalise on the very real and tangible benefits that gender equity offers. Instead we need women who feel empowered enough to lead like themselves as that’s where the true potential lies.

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